Excessive jealousy or possessiveness is the leading reason behind why people break up. If you are extremely possessive about your partner, you could be sabotaging your own love life.
There are certain qualities that two people require to make a relationship work. They need to be compatible, understand each other, and share the same wavelength. Similarly, even when it comes to destroying a relationship, it is not always one person who is at fault. Sometimes, certain behavioural traits of a person can also destroy a relationship. Things like past demons, jealousy and lack of security can make people say or do things, which in turn affect the relationship in a very negative way and as a result, cause people to suffer. Just like it takes hard work to buid a relationship, certain things are a sure way to end one. The following are a few things that could lead your relationship in the wrong dirrection...
The green-eyed monster
Excessive jealousy or possessiveness is the leading reason behind why people break up. If you are extremely possessive about your partner, you could be sabotaging your own love life. Nobody likes their life to be controlled by someone else. If your partner starts to feel concerned by your desire to always control what he or she is doing, they might just break free. If you are the type that gets jealous easily, the next time you feel the feeling surfacing, remind yourself that it could be worse for you to indulge in your jealousy, rather than ignore it. Talk to your partner instead, and explain that your possessiveness stems from the fact that you love him/her immensely and that you are willing to work on changing.
Sex
If you are having sexual problems in your relationship and do not talk to your partner about your issues, it could ruin your relation. Sex is not th only thing, but then, it is a natural desire. If there are problems in this department your best bet would be to voice your feelings. If you continue to remain silent, it could lead to frustation and you might end up losing your partner.
The past
Let the past remain in the past, there is no point in bringing it up and allow it to affect your present. If you have issues, talk to your loved ones. If you allow these issues to build they will not only ruin your love life, but also extend to other relationships in your love life.
Money problems
Money can cause a lot of tension between two people who are intimate. The only way to solve money issues, is to reach middle ground. If you love shopping, limit your expenses. Similarly, the partner who likes to save should loosen his or her fist a little and learn to enjoy the money that is earned.
Former lovers
No one likes it if their partner still has feelings for their ex, or even an implication that their partner favours another's company. So, if you are still in touch with your ex, you need to stop it before it destroys your current relationship. If you feel that both of you are genuinely just friends with your respective exex, learn to accept that. Otherwise you both need to sit down and have a talk as to where you stand in each other's lives, so that there is no room for doubt.
