Being a part sure is the toughest job on earth..My oldest son, Robert, who is 14 yrs old has been having alot of difficulties in school and at home..I don't mean he is violent or in trouble with the law, just very distant, doing poorly in school and talking back..I have tried everything to get through to him and nothing works ..until tonite...He broke down into tears tonite and told me that he hasn't been doing well because he is scared to trust anyone anymore since my boyfriend Ron (his stepfather) passed away in 2006...they were very close, almost like best friends...Ron was the first person, other than me, that my son opened up to...I wish his real father was someone he could look up to ..but let's face it..........he's a lost cause (long long story)...My new husband, Shawn, has opened his heart to my sons and especially Robert but it's not easy....now that Robert is a teen....He is scared that if he lets another man into his life as a father he will die...and quote "where will I be then"?...I did my very best to explain to my son that life "must" go on...no matter how difficult it is..we all have to let go...When Ron died I felt like my whole world crumbled and that he left me..but he's still with me in spirit....and I am a much stronger person than I ever was...I wish I could, however, erase all the pain my son feels right now...Seeing him cry just breaks my heart in two...right now he is sleeping like a baby- snoring like he usually does (lol)...i just sat beside him and remembered how he looked when he was a baby, not much different, just all grown up now....I pray God will give him the strength to learn to love and trust....