Lyn Mary Veronica Russell's blog: "A Slice of Life"

   I get it... Really and truly I do.Women desperately want to have a child, a child of their own, genetically theirs.It took me 6 years to conceive and give birth to one child, taking all the fertility treatments that were available to me.Ironically enough when I gave up on the treatments did this miracle occur.It took another 4 years to conceive again, only to lose her as a result of a car crash when I was in my final trimester of pregnancy.I know first hand how devastating  it can be.    However.. and it's a big however.... I do not understand these women who have decided to become first time mothers in their 60's or as the World's oldest first time mother... the incredible age of 70...   How fair is it that these children grow up with ailing parents, most of who will die before they can even have a memory of them?The world's oldest woman to give birth (to TRIPLETS, no less) at 70 tried three times to get pregnant at a fertility clinic.She and her husband had been married for around 44 years before their first children arrived.Her husband had two other wives and neither of those women could conceive either.. hmmmm did he ever think HE was the problem??!!After mortgaging their farm, the lovely couple went to a fertility clinic in India , where they live, and she was inseminated 3 times before success was reached.During interviews with this doctor, he stated that he did not think it was unethical.He also all but came out and said that he didn't care about the couple or their children once they leave his care.His job was only to give the couple what they wanted. PARDON?????!!!!!I believe that any doctor who decides to enter into the world of fertility processes should educate  the couples and explain to them the health risks to both the mother and children, as well as perhaps a glimpse of reality that depending on the age of the patient, they may never live to see their children grow up.The  now 73 year old mother of triplets has had numerous complications to her health since giving birth. She is in fact, DYING, soon to leave the 18 month old triplets motherless.The couple now claim that the doctor never explained to them the health risks , and they didn't know better as they were uneducated farmers.... (Does that mean they had no common sense??!!!) To this day the doctor who performed this procedure claims her illness is not related to the pregnancy,although she was in good health until then. Her children have also suffered, the largest weighing in at a whopping 2lb 6oz. They spent much time in an incubator, fighting for their tiny lives. When they were allowed to go home, their mother was still bedridden and unable to care for them. WHAT A GREAT LIFE!!Another woman who was once the world's oldest first time mother at 66 died at 69 when her twins were just 3 years old, leaving her husband who was now 80 to look after them.   I am not saying that these people don't deserve to have children, but there has to be a better way.There are so many needy children out there these days.It shouldn't matter if they aren't genetically yours. They BECOME yours,if you want a child that badly.   Yes I am aware that there are no guarantees on life... even young parents can die, BUT majority do live to see their children in school and to graduate.The majority can love and nurture their children as they should be.Just because science can help a 70 year old woman have a child, doesn't mean they should.