I did not write this. I found this in an old email. I must have come across it on the web at one time. I found it to be most interesting. Hopefully you will, too.
Soulmates.
There are differing philosophies pertaining to soulmates. Each psychic consultant or metaphysician may have his or her own. The information provided below is derived from over twenty-five years of research and interacting with Spirit, spirit guides, angels, deceased loved ones, and clients. I have been taught that, in reality, we are all soulmates because we are all connected on the most profound level; we are derived from the same universal life force and will return to the same universal life force once our physical shell meets its demise.
Therefore, for all intent and purposes, the terminology "soulmate" is a humanistic one. Whenever we encounter someone who elicits intense emotions and/or a strong physical passion within us we often want to believe that some "greater plan" or "destiny" brought us together for a special purpose; thereby creating a spiritual bond with our partner or desired partner. We may then use the term of endearment "soulmate" to define him or her.
Unfortunately, however, it occurs often enough that those persons who do elicit intense emotions and/or a strong passion within us are nothing more than Passionmates (partners we are drawn toward based primarily on ego wants and needs). Although many clients protest, "No, this is not just an emotional attachment or physical lust. There is a deep, spiritual connection between us," I've yet to encounter anyone who has expressed, "Why, I am not attracted to this person in the least and I want nothing from him/her! Yet, I just know we are soulmates!" More succinctly, this ego factor can have tremendous influence on whether or not we believe a spiritual connection exists with our romantic ex, partner, or partner-to-be.
By the same token, it is true that there are spirits whom we pre choose (whilst on the spirit realm) to meet up with during any given incarnation for various reasons. The implementation of that spiritual goal - of encountering each other once again - would be defined fate or destiny. Yet, most of what else happens thereafter would be a matter of free will. Whereas, other persons we may encounter figuratively for the first time here on Mother Earth. The persons we have a spiritual history with and/or choose to hook up with prior to birth are spiritually labeled soulmates.
There is a common misconception that we can only have one true soulmate and that this is the person we will marry and live happily ever after with. Quite the contrary, a dear friend, close family member, lover, et al can all be construed soulmates and not all of these such relationships will be blissful or lifelong. Additionally, the Universe is wise enough to almost always send us more than one option to choose from during the course of each lifetime so that we can exercise our free will once here and because being with the same soulmate indefinitely throughout our spiritual evolution could hinder our growth.
To simplify matters, there are at least three more common classifications of soulmates (as outlined below). There are also *Limbotic Soulmates (those spirits who pre choose to become Companion Soulmates in time but who end up meeting prematurely during this life or even during a lifetime too soon; resulting in a limbotic state for a duration) and Twin Souls (when a singular spirit divides into two halves and one or both halves become infatuated with the other on the mundane realm for a time. Twin Soul unions, in particular those of a romantic nature, can become a disaster eventually if both parties do not wholly love and accept the "self" as is by the time they encounter each other).
KARMIC SOULMATES, COMPANION SOULMATES, AND SOULMATE CUSP
Karmic Soulmates are those who have shared at least one previous incarnation together that ended on a sour note. They meet up with each other again in a subsequent lifetime with the intent of working on any past lessons/rectifying any residual karma, which affords them the opportunity to attain closure and move on. It's certainly possible for these souls to progress to the next level of the union (to become Companion Soulmates) instead of separating - if both parties strongly desire this and apply mutual effort. However, usually at least one partner deviates from such a path over time because to conquer all of these goals in a singular lifetime and then to still have sufficient love/desire to be with the alternate partner proves too daunting.
In fact, it's not uncommon for Karmic Soulmates to actually create new challenges and accrue more adverse karma as opposed to alleviating the old (again, if both don't put forth equal effort to resolving issues). Such a couple can have several ruptures either before the relationship ever truly gets off the ground or before the permanent severing of ties. Some Karmic Soulmates do marry or remain together for a long amount of time in an effort to achieve their pre chosen spiritual goals, but the union becomes unhappy, problematic, and/or cyclic at some juncture nonetheless; whether they ultimately go their separate ways or progress to the next level.
Oftentimes, too - despite any past karma or lessons being conquered - each party invariably goes their separate way in order to be free to encounter their already existent Companion Soulmate who awaits him or her. This is because, again, more often than not the main intent between Karmic Soulmates is not to be a couple again in the first place but, rather, to resolve old issues if possible, attain closure, and then move on. If this is not accomplished, or if additional adverse karma is accrued, they can end up encountering each other in lifetime after lifetime until they finally get it "right." One, if not all, of the variables below usually affect a Karmic Soulmate union:
*Physical or Geographical Ruptures/Distancing
*Third Party Interference
*Indecision and Inability of One Partner to Make a Firm Commitment
*The Timing is Amiss
Companion Soulmates, on the other hand, are those we pre choose to work on establishing a profound love and enriching, enduring union with; to teach to, learn from, grow with, and be partners for a lengthy duration - even a lifetime. Even though we can learn and grow from any relationship type, Companion Soulmates experience many wonderful, healthy rewards in the process! This type of relationship is very comfortable, respectful, honest, supportive, affectionate, loving, secure, committed, and all that good stuff. Although every relationship has its ups and downs, Companion Soulmate unions are centered on mutual love and respect even during times of adversity and conflict.
Yes, some Companion Soulmates can encounter delays or impediments before coming together in paradise, yet, in almost all instances both parties will take the necessary action to be together in a timely manner (i.e., if your Companion Soulmate is married when you two first meet, he/she won't keep you "dangling" for years on end before he/she divorces their mate in order to be with you). Additionally, not all Companion Soulmate unions begin with an intense romantic attraction or strong physical passion at all. In fact, a good portion of true Companion Soulmates are founded more on friendship than emotional highs and fleeting moments of passion. They develop a deep, spiritual love and friendship which transcends the ego wants and needs of romance.
Soulmate Cusp is the scenario that arises when the couple shares different elements of both Karmic Soulmates and Companion Soulmates. The term "Soulmate Cusp" itself indicates that the final conclusion of the relationship could go either way but usually leans more toward Companion Soulmates (contingent upon various factors). An example of this would be: some residual karma from a previous incarnation that needs to be rectified but both partners pre choosing to work on being together in a happy, lifelong union after this is accomplished. Still, due to the blessing of free will, a Soulmate Cusp status does not ensure that the end result will be marital unity, for instance. In most instances, though, this type of union would normally be considered challenging initially but rewarding ultimately.
On the surface, any of these relationship types can seem so similar at the onset that a person may confuse them; believing that a Karmic Soulmate is their Companion Soulmate or that a Passionmate is their Companion Soulmate. This usually happens because - whether the relationship be Karmic, Companion, or Passion based - in the beginning of any type of relationship one might experience any of the following: an intense emotional attraction, strong physical passion, the sensation of déjà vu or an empathic/telepathic connection, pervasive thoughts to the effect of, "I KNOW I am supposed to be with this person. I can just FEEL it. This is THE partner for me," etc. If you are wrong and believe that one is the other then you could set yourself up for a lot of heartache.
The bottom line is that Companion Soulmates are not obsessive with nor abusive toward each other. If you just can't "live" without your partner; obsessively dwell on him/her; fight frequently; feel persistently angry, rejected, neglected, lonely, frustrated, and/or disappointed; are betrayed or cheated on; your partner refuses to commit; there are prolonged episodes of separation or geographical distancing, ad nauseam - it's very unlikely that person is your true Companion Soulmate no matter how "connected to" to or "in love" you may be with him or her. You can refer to such a partner as your Companion Soulmate until you are blue in the face but this will not negate the fact that said individual is not healthy for you and the potential of the union either flourishing and/or enduring is relatively nil.
A person does not have to be spiritually defined a soulmate in order for you to experience either a miserable or a loving relationship with him/her no matter how long the union lasts. Even soulmates have to have a "first time" here on Mother Earth. As such, some of us certainly do meet entirely new individuals during our present lifetime who are not metaphysically regarded soulmates but who can become so over time.
Finally, there can certainly be exceptions in any kind of relationship - even Companion Soulmate relationships - so it's always best to use as unbiased an approach as possible when attempting to ascertain precisely "who" your partner may be. Our emotional/physical wants and needs can tend to cloud our judgment and intuition at times so this is easier to accomplish if you take a break from your partner for a little while and undergo honest personal, relational, spiritual, and psychical examination.
In Love&Light,
Meg
