OK SO I HAVE THIS FRIEND WHO HAS HAD A TERRIBLE YEAR. FINALLY DIVORCED AND HAS JUST STARTED DATING A NEW GUY. CAN YOU BE REALLY HAPPY FOR SOMEONE BUT A BIT JEALOUS OF THEM TOO? SHE TRUELY DESERVES ALL THE HAPPINESS SHE GETS. BUT HEARING HOW GREAT THIS GUY IS TREATING HER AND HOW FUN AND ROMANTIC HE IS , KINDA MAKES ME A BIT JEALOUS.
I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 8 YRS NOW, AND WHERE HAS MY ROMANCE GONE? LOL EVERYONE WORRIED ABOUT 'BRINGING SEXY BACK' WHAT ABOUT ROMANCE? WHO IS GOING TO BRING IT BACK? I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN A VERY SEXUAL PERSON, AND ADMITINGLY HAVE USED A LITTLE EXTRA FLIRTATION TO GET WHAT I NEEDED. AND HONESTLY I DONT HAVE MANY CONVERSATIONS WITH PEOPLE IN GENERAL WHERE SEX DOESN'T COME UP. BUT WHAT HAPPENED TO THE ROMANCE? IT ALWAYS FADES FIRST IN A REALATIONSHIP BUT THE SEX WILL USUALLY LAST THE DURATION OF THE RELATIONSHIP. I THINK PEOPLE THINK BEING ROMANTIC IS TOO MUCH PRESSURE. BUT REALLY PEOPLE (YES LADIES I AM TALKING TO YOU TOO!) IT DOES TAKE THAT MUCH EFFORT. IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE CANDLE LIGHT DINNERS, AND JEWERLY, ROMANCE CAN AND SHOULD BE FUN. LADIES WE TEND TO LEAVE IT UP TO THE MEN TO BE ROMANTIC FOR US. TO SHOWER US WITH FLOWERS,CANDY AND TAKE US OUT AND SHOW US OFF. BUT LADIES WHAT DO WE DO FOR THEM? I CAN HONESTLY SAY I DON'T KNOW WHEN THE LAST TIME WAS THAT ME OR MY HUSBAND DID ANYTHING ROMANTIC FOR THE OTHER. BUT IN MY CASE I THINK HE THINKS SEX=ROMANCE! ( AND TRUST ME THE SEX AINT THAT GREAT) MOST OF US WILL END A RELATIONSHIP AT THE DROP OF A HAT IF THE SEX WAS TO STOP, BUT FOR SOME REASON WE JUST SEEM TO ACCEPT IT WHEN THE ROMANCE STOPS. WHY IS THAT? WHY DO WE FEEL THAT ROMANCE CANT OUT LAST THE RELATIONSHIP? FELLAS IT IS MORE SIMPLE THEN YOU THINK. YOU REMEMBER ALL THAT CUTESY STUFF YOU DID FOR US WHEN WE WERE DATING? OPENING DOORS, SENDING LOVE NOTES, CALLING IN MIDDLE OF THE DAY JUST TO SAY I LOVE YOU..... WELL WHY DID YOU EVER STOP THAT? THOSE THINGS HELPED US TO FALL FOR YOU SO WHY DIDN'T YOU CONTINUE THEM? AND LADIES REMEMBER HOW YOU USED TO MEET YOUR MAN AT THE DOOR EVERY DAY WITH OPEN ARMS AND A KISS, WITH THAT LOOK ON YOUR FACE THAT HE HAS JUST MADE YOUR DAY, WHEN YOU TRIED TO ALWAYS LOOK YOUR BEST FOR HIM, WELL WHY DID WE STOP? I KNOW WE SAY LIFE HAPPENS, KIDS, FAMILY, HOUSEHOLD CHORES, BILLS AND MONEY ISSUES. ALL OF THOSE THINGS ARE VERY IMPORTANT BUT WHEN YOUR LAYING THERE ON YOUR DEATH BED AND REMEBERING THE LIFE YOU HAVE LEAD ARE YOU GOING TO REMEBER WHO WASHED THE DISHES THIS WEEK OR WILL YOU REMEBER THAT TIME WHEN THE MAN YOU LOVED SWEPT YOU OFF YOUR FEET, AND ALWAYS OPENED THAT CAR DOOR FOR YOU NO MATTER WHO WAS AROUND.
THEN THERE IS THE SEX ISSUE. I LOVE SEX I THINK GREAT SEX IS THE BEST THING EVER INVENTED... THANK YOU GOD FOR THAT BEING THE WAY TO KEEP CIVILIZATION ALIVE!!! BUT SOMETIME I THINK WE GIVE IN TOO EASY TO OUR SEXUAL DESIRES AND DON'T HOLD OUT FOR THE ROMANCE. YES I AGREE THAT SOMETIMES A PERSON NEEDS THAT ANIMALISTIC RAW PASSION WITH NO STRINGS ATTATCHED. BUT EVEN THAT CAN BE ROMANTIC.
I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT YOU HAVE TO BE IN LOVE TO HAVE SEX, OR HAVE SEX CAUSE YOUR IN LOVE. BUT I DO THNK THAT YOU CAN STILL BE PASSIONIATE AND ROMANTIC EVEN IN THE ABSENCE OF LOVE. THE MOST PASSIONIATE SEX I HAVE EVER HAD WAS WITH A MAN I WAS NOT IN LOVE WITH. BUT THE SEX WAS AMAZING! HOWEVER NOW EVEN THE PASSION IN THAT RELATIONSHIP HAS FADED.
MAYBE THAT IS WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT HERE PASSION INSTEAD OF ROMANCE. PASSION FOR SEX , PASSION FOR LOVE, AND MOST OF ALL PASSION FOR LIFE AND YOUR MATE WHEATHER YOUR IN LOVE WITH THEM OR NOT. I TRUELY FEEL THAT YOU CAN BE PASSIONATE ABOUT SOMEONE OR SOMETHING WITHOUT BEING IN LOVE WITH THEM. PASSION AND DESIRE, LOVE AND ROMANCE, IS THAT REALLY TO MUCH TO ASK FOR?
