Relationships are interesting from a psychological stand point. It’s interesting in the sense of how each gender handles a break up. Females for example, go through, what I call, “The Cleansing Period.” After a break-up a woman will usually go through her items that her X had given her, such as jewelry cards, clothes or perfumes either pack them or throw them away. From there women will have her friends around her so that she may confide in them not to mention ridicule and make fun of her X. Women will than go out and get their manicure and pedicures and get their hair done along with some clothes shopping as if to cleanse the X out of her life and system.
Men on the other hand do things completely different. They will go to bars, parties or clubs with friends as they drink the night away. They confide in each other and boost each others ego and try hard to make him forget about his X and that he was too good for her. In this situation, men can be their own worst enemy. Men will also go out on dates with other women as if to replace her. This is the biggest mistake a man can make, if they have any aspirations of getting back together with their her. Once this action is done any hope of getting back together with the X girlfriend is gone. “Words Float”, meaning the word of him seeing another woman will travel. In this sense, women are like mental telegraphs.
A comedian once said “Women do not get hysterical, they get historical.” This is so true. Once a man makes a mistake a woman never forgets and the man will be constantly reminded when ever he makes a similar mistake.
Relationships are important part of a persons life. Every one is looking for that infamous “CLICK”. The "Click" starts off with the first "Line of sight", I disagree with people when they say they do not go after physical attraction. They say they go after personality. Well, you had to find him/her attractive before you made the approach. Physical attraction consist of 98% of the reason as to why a relatioship started in the first place. After physical attributes comes the kiss. I feel this gives a whole new meaning to the phrase "Kiss and tell". I myself have been in situations where the kiss did not feel right and ended the connection right there. After the kiss test obviously comes sex. I feel sex is kind of similiar to a lock and key, I know this sounds weird, Very similar to the kiss also. The key has to fit in order to turn the unlock her heart. To me this is not just sex, this is earning her love, trust and showing her how much you love her. This is for her, not for the man. Make her feel that she is important and that she is all that matters. Always stay with her after, do not get up and leave. Cuddle with her, kiss her and tell her how much she means to you. Trust me, later on you will wish that you did.
People need to start showing their true self. When a woman meets a man or vice versa, they should be their true self. If you should try to be something you are not, the real you has to come out sooner or later. This is a definite cause for a break up. No on likes misrepresentation.
People need to find someone in their life to grow old with. To share what life has to offer. To be able to awake next to each other. The need to feel wanted and loved by another person is overwhelming. We are very verbal creatures and the need to be able to talk about today’s events and share it with your loved one is a great experience. To get feedback from either him or her and to see their views on the subject.
Communication is key in a relationship. If one another does not know how the other feels nothing can be achieved as far the relationship itself is concerned. I feel that there are three main factors in a relationship.
(1) Love
(2) Trust
(3) Honesty
Love is important, it fills the heart and makes you feel like nothing else can. To come home to your significant other and see him/her waiting for you is a great feeling. The things he/she does for you, no matter how big or how small is phenomenal. The extents that they will go through to please you.
It’s funny, how you feel after a break and how true the saying is ‘You don’t know what you got till it’s gone”. After a break up, you begin to think of the things your X did for you and feel badly when you did not show the appreciation you should have. It truly is the small things that can make another person happy. It is that way, because they are just that, small things. If you can’t do the small things for your significant other how can you possibly be counted on when needed for serious situations. Treat each day with him/her as if it were your last. Remember every breath, smell, kiss and hug. We always find our selfs reflecting back on what we should have done. Make it right the first time around so you know you did your best so that you dont have to look back and wish you did things differently.
Marriage rolls in. Some people after a few months get a feeling of clausterphobia. A feeling of being tied down. You can not look at a marriage as work. You have to remember why you were there in the first place. There was once a time the two people could not be without each other. Where every song, bump in the road or a certain smell brought back memories. A marriage should not just be that, A marriage should be fun. Your mate should be your friend, confidant, a shoulder to cry on and some one just to listen to you or talk about your day. I feel before divorce, given the situation, people should seriously sit back and think about why they were married in the first place. I am far from a expert. Just stating my thoughts.
Live, Love, Learn.
