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So I honestly have nothing wrong with Friends With Benefits. Honestly, at the moment it would be almost preferable to just have someone to sleep with and relax without worrying about the stress of a relationship.
That being said...
I don't approve of being a whore and sleeping with anyone and everyone. You have to have standards to do FWB properly. You also have to have boundaries and rules. For one, if either person in the FWB falls for someone? The FWB has to end right then and there. And FWB has to be purely physical, unless you decide that if feelings develop you can do something. See, the problem is that most people agree to be purely physical and then one side develops feelings and expects the other side to. It just doesn't work like that loves!
Exclusivity can be over-rated. Especially with FWB. If you're exclusive with FWB...what's the difference between your FWB and a relationship? Nothing! Except perhaps that you're not going on dates. But you're wasting your ability to see other people. After all, the point of FWB is to be NOT SERIOUS and have sex.
Having fun is essential to FWB in my opinion. So you may as well break out your kinks and try new things with you FWB. I mean, why not, right? There's absolutely no rule saying you can't throw on an outfit and role-play with your FWB. Be sexy and fun in the bedroom. Try new positions every time. Why not, right? After all, if you and your FWB are a good sexual match, it should all be good fun.
Yeah, I like FWB. But it takes a certain kind of person to be a FWB. I'm sort of looking for one, but not really. I'm not sure yet. But these are just some random thoughts I have about FWB that I thought I'd get down and post...if for no other reason than I'm really bored and would prefer to write randomness than read my Criminal Procedures Textbook. But, as Dan Savage would probably agree, having a FWB is a great way to have some fun and have some great sex. ;D
