I know many could care less, but some are asking why I say I am hurting and things like that. This morning I said Good Bye to my daughters for 9 months.
You ask why? My ex was an asshole, ok he still is. I couldn't take being married to him going through the shit I did, so I wanted out.
I was mainly a stay at home mother, I wanted my girls. He refused to pay me anything over what the courts would order for child support if I left. He said if he had to he would lie to come up with reason to not pay spousal support. At that time he even put out a false claim about a guy I talked to ONCE, to try and bring him up on Adultery charges, just to prove he would do what he had to.
I had no job, no degree, nothing. I would not have been able to support myself and my girls at that time. I couldn't take being there anymore, so we came up with an agreement. I signed a waiver to his retirement for when he retires out of the army, I agreed to not go for spousal support, BUT I wanted the girls back after 4 yrs.
He was deployed for 3 yrs before this time. Our youngest daughter was going on 3 yrs old. He was a loving father, I give him that much, so this allowed him time with them. It was to also allow me time to get on my feet.
I wanted to go to school, but that didn't work out either, but I do have a job. I also fell deeply in love, had twins, and got married. Next yr is my 4 yrs and I am more then ready.
This is the Christmas I don't get them. I don't get them during the breaks I'm supposed to, because he comes up with the excuse there isn't enough time they are out of school to travel here. They live in TX, I'm in VA.
My 4 yrs is up this coming summer since he wants to go by when the decree was finalized, not when the agreement was made. I get them for 1 yr straight before he gets his visitations, unless he wants to push his breaks he doesn't allow me to. Then he gets them for the summers. I can handle not having them for 3 months a hell of a lot better then 9.
I miss them so bad!!!! I do not feel complete without them.....
