For some reason people keep proposing to me on fubar even though I have the feature turned OFF. It’s quite annoying but at the same time a bit amusing when they get mad that I rejected their request. What they fail to realize is that it costs $100 to get fumarried. I tend to get a few marriage requests a day on fubar. I can’t help but think “why the fuck would you propose online ‘fake’ marriage to a person you don’t even know?”
I don’t believe in marriage. Not in real life and not online. Marriages started off as business agreements between families. You pretty much traded your kid for status, money, objects, etc. It wasn’t about love. I’m not a religious person. I don’t see eye to eye with the religious beliefs in most aspects, especially marriage. I don’t believe you need marriage to make a life long commitment to anyone. If that’s who you want to be with and they feel the same way then that’s the way it will be. Marriage is for the religious and those that want the legal benefits of marriage.
What’s the point of marriage? What’s the reason for getting married? It’s not a life long commitment anymore. Divorce ruined that. Now lawyers get to make a living off of you. Not only for divorces, but for child custody and support cases as well. No one looks down on single mothers and fathers anymore because it’s so common now. Thanks to Divorce. Churches don’t care if you get divorced. The more times you get re-married the more money the church makes off of you. This goes for the rest of the wedding industry as well. If you ask me it’s just another way for people to spend beyond their means. Big fancy weddings they can’t really afford.
The only way I would get married is if it was for the legal benefits that come with getting married. But I’m not so sure it’s worth it even then. I couldn’t imagine dealing with the drama of divorce, child custody and support (if me and my partner couldn’t come to an agreement), the lifestyle change it would require of a separation. All of which costs money. I can think of a ton of things I’d rather waste my money.
I just don’t see the point in marriage. We have the whole marriage thing hammered into our heads from the time we’re born. In children movies weddings are glamorized to make little girls dream about being that princess in white with her prince charming walking down the isle. People in our lives, in television shows, and in books (magazines and newspapers included) will get married and divorced while we grow up. It’s up to men to reproduce and keep the family name going. I wasn’t the girl that grew up daydreaming about getting married to my prince charming.
Maybe a good deal of it is because of the way I was raised. If I wanted something I had to get it for myself. I’ve had a job since I was 16, so anything that I’ve owned since then I’ve bought for myself. I’ve never depended on anyone for anything. I support me. I don’t need a man to take care of me. I guess what want is cohabitation with someone that’s as committed to me as I am to them. I’m not looking for marriage. Never was. Never Will.
