MrCountry's blog: "Words from my heart..."

You know.. my life might not be perfect... I may not be the man that is a God like person... but there are things that I am going to tell you that every man (including me), and woman must do or at least try! Now I know, as a man, that sometimes it is very hard for a man to be able to express in a way in which a woman will know that we do love and care for them in our whole mind, soul, body presence unequivocally. Our love for them stems from the very breath that we take. Our souls are lost without the gentle loving presence of a pure Angel. A presence of such delicate and majestic that the mere mention of their name brings such warmth and longing as of which has never been felt before. I have had a lot of woman who have graced me with their time and caring and love, yet I have neglected the very fabric of the purely cosmic power of their presence. I, as a man, have not seen the significant power in which I was so gracefully presented with. Please, by all means, do not get me wrong, I have loved every single one of them in their own special way. Whether they be a mother, grandma, girlfriend, sister or friend, I have loved them. I really have!! Yet I have lacked the knowledge to understand exactly what I had held in my hands. I thought that I had learned this lesson when I was 15 and the most precious woman I had ever had the grace and fortune to meet in my life got a higher calling then to be with me. This person was a true and very precious Angel, Shirley P. Wion. She taught me a bigger meaning to the word so overly used these days, LOVE!!!! I was so mistaken. I have not even uncovered the first layer of the meaning of Love. Please make no mistake though, I am a very kind, loving, gentle, easygoing, peaceful soul yes. I try to be honest, loyal, loving, carefree, fun person every day of my life. Yes I can be very blunt, mean, an asshole, stubborn, wild, crazy, and a lot more at times I know. I am human! At least I can honestly say that I am unconformed, open minded, and so very willing to learn so much! As an example what I am writing about I myself have to learn! I have watched and continue to watch so many couples fight and scream and hurt one another! I have watched so many men take the precious gift in which they were entrusted for granted. Many times have I been a shoulder for those who are abandoned, rejected, emotionally beaten woman to cry on. Now yes I am so not perfect! I myself have done my fare share of abuse. I have yelled when a soft word could have helped. I have walked away when I should have walked forward. I have been as a deep stinging, breathtaking pain instead of a healing uplifting hand. No... I am not perfect... I am so far from! You would have thought that we would have been able to learn as a human to be softer, gentler, comforting, loving... I must say that most of us men, unfortunately, have not! I am by no means saying that everything should be perfect and a man and woman should never have arguments or disagreements!! HAHAHAHA! No, unfortunately, we are all humans and only think what we know to be true! We will have disputes, yes! I am merely stating that, as a man, we can hopefully learn to not be so quick to draw! we need to love... let me say it again... We, as men, must learn to LOVE the special, so fragile, package that God has graciously given to us. If you truly love the Angel in which you have you will never cheat, lie, steal, strangle, kill, destroy her. Don't, as a man, ever do any of the following and so much more. Don't cheat her of her time. Cheat her of a life. Cheat on her with her trust in which she has so gracefully given. Cheat her of her personal, private time that she given to you, by seeing another for this. Don't lie to her about anything!!! Never lie to her heart and let it open just to be crushed! Lie to her senses with feelings and emotions that she has spent on the promise of a forever. I beg you not to steal her time she has given. Steal the innocence she has abandoned. Steal the breath she has taken to give you her all! Don't ever abuse the moments. The memories to be made. Abuse the chance for a forever. Never ever abuse her Mind, Body, and Soul... It is so much worse then anything in the world. Never strangle the life from her. The chance yet not taken. The life that will never be remembered. Thou shall not KILL!!!! I find it unnerving that Papa said this. You can take it so many different unique ways. Kill the dreams they have made. Kill the chance for a happy ever after. Kill the heart to only feel numbness without any pain. Kill the world in which they see. I can go on not only with love but with life! Never abuse someone just to get ahead in life. Don't ever trample all over them. Lift them up not knock them down! Another time for this perhaps.... To continue I beg you by all means never destroy them! It is so easy to do not only to woman but to men as well! You, as a man, have no concept of this. One word from your stern, stubborn, belligerent, unsuspecting mouth can utterly destroy the very fabric of not only her world but others as well! With your actions alone you can destroy every guy after yours chance at letting her have the chance to be able to prove to her that he may be the real ever after and be 100% genuine in his words and actions. I myself have run head on with this and found that it is so difficult to walk in with only the purest of intentions and be shot down. The undying loyalty and trust of a first relationship will never be present again. You as a guy must remember that it is so very much easier for you to take rejection and hurt then her. We are raised to be strong, bold, a stone statue of a figure. Told never to show emotion and keep it bottled inside. We are hardwired for this! It is so sad. I am so disappointed that we are not shown that it is really ok to show emotions and be able to talk about them. I am not saying be a wimp if you will but be a strong loving person! Before I say this next comment I want you to really understand that I mean absolutely no disrespect at all! I am simply saying that I admire and respect and honor and have only the purest adoration for the following! I wish that we could all learn a lesson or two form them! I would love to be more like a mentally handicapped person. They are so pure, so loving, and so heavenly! They are so very quick to smile and laugh and love! They great you with open arms and an open heart! They care not for what you look like, how you act, what you have done, who you are. they simply love you! Status to them means nothing! I for a "man" am very emotional. I will cry for the helpless, the rejected, the torn, the beaten. I will cry at the moment they find relief and understanding of the feeling of pure love! I hope to be better! I am not above anyone because no matter your status in life you are never above me nor I above you! We are equals in life. I or you may have more/less experience then each other in some areas but we all have our gifts and talents that the other doesn't! I myself as I write and I read this will strive to be a whole lot more careful with the gift of love I am presented with! I will try to be less opinionated and a lot more attentive to those around me. I pray that I may be "slow to speak and quick to listen." I truly beg you to let your lady know... truly know... that you love her. Don't be quick to act but quick to relax. Never put anything above her. The video game, movie, call, whatever, unless an emergency, I promise you can wait! I am not suggesting that all of your time must be focused on her, just most of it! Trust me she is so worth it! They always are! HAHAHA!! Try, I ask of you, to express in some way that you love her dearly. You will never be able to tell her enough! She will always want more whether she tells you or not! It is really ok to be emotional in front of her. Remember that you are human. You are not some senseless, unintelligent robot that society tries to make you. You have feelings and you can use them! I promise no one will think less of you! I want to make a statement before I close if you don't mind. Please know that I am not saying that woman are some petty little creature and can't stand on their own feet and be strong and tough. Oh NO!!! My grandma was a pure example! She was a very strong, proud woman and had every right to be. The same with most my lady friends and family. They are all strong, smart, tough women in all kinds of areas. I am just writing this so men because we tend to forget to express or we abuse the right to love you! You are so majestic! A true heaven sent Angel.! I have learned this! I only pray that I may never forget this! I will strive to be soft and gentle with your feelings. May I be graced with many more chances to share that I truly care! May I as a man be strong enough and have the courage to be a pillar and foundation for the expression of love. I hope that en can learn from what I have said. May you as a man and woman hear my hearts deepest cry to act upon being a better lover. Remember that you will never be able to change the world around you until you change yourself! By changing yourself you send a ripple in the thin presence of the world! You may only be a drop yes... but remember that one drop cause many waves! Many blessings and know that I love you... I may not know you or never meet you... that doesn’t matter to me because I myself choose to love you... not because I have to but only because I really want to!!!!

By, Henry Havens

P.S. Your comments are so very much welcome and appreciated whether they are bad or good!