tedarnold's blog: "Ted Wilson"

I wanted to share something with the fubar nation written in a book wrote by an associate of mine about relationships and other issues.

I am writing this in hopes of recieving an honest answer from  whoever reads what I am about to write.

There are 3 types of long-term, tangible, relationships you can have with another person.  Consider how you would feel if you were married or dating or the child of a person or even the employee of someone who treated you like this:

1.    He or she imposes rules on you without any explanation.  The only time you ever hear or see them is when  she or he is giving you a rule, letting you know you broke a rule, or punishing you for breaking a rule.  This is rules without a relationship or what I call the

        "Prison guard" relationship.

                  OR

2.     He or she gives you unlimited and unconditional love without any expectations in return.  You ask and they give, you do wrong and there are no consequences, the only time you call them is when you want something and they comply all the time.  This is a relationship without rules or what I calll the

         "Sugar daddy" or "Sugar momma" relationship.

                  OR

3.      He or she clearly states the rules and the consequences for breaking the rules.  He or she explains the rules and how the rules benefit him or her, you and the relationship.  He or she historically shows the benefits of the rules and the relationship or (except for the boss) he or she demonstrates his or her love for you.  When you break the rules there are consequences and when you follow the rules there are benefits.  This is rules and a relationship or a

          "Balanced relationship"

Be honest fubar nation, which one apply or has applied to you?

A.  Prison guard

B.  Sugar daddy, Sugar momma

C.  Balanced relationship