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Is the old saying, “It’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all” true? I think so. I’ve loved and lost and felt the pain. We all have at some point. But, after the pain fades, you can remember and take comfort in the good times. Because no matter how bad the relationship turned out there were some good times to remember. Even then as we sit and ponder new relationships we still hesitate, remembering the hurt that came from old breakups. We drag our feet, hold our emotions back, and back peddle in a new relationship. Then we remember how great it is to be in a relationship…the laughing, the comfort the security and the love, and we want to move forward and feel those things again despite our doubts. If we could only just freely let our emotions show, open ourselves up completely and fully to the other person. Just revel in the moment, relax and let tomorrow take care of itself. How wonderful life would be. However those walls and memories of love gone bad stand in our way. Sometimes making it almost impossible to open ourselves up to another person, dooming us to live unloved and alone forever. We find logical reasons, excuses, anything to keep our distance from the other person. So, what’s the answer? I don’t have any answers. Just sitting here thinking on these things as I continue my new life in this dating world of 40 and over. Do we just go from person to person, never really getting inside their heads, growing to know them and love them? That would be the safe way to proceed, no hurt there. Or do we fall for each person we meet only to find out they don’t feel the same way and get hurt again and again? No, of course not. There has to be a happy medium somewhere along the way I would think. Or perhaps when “the one” comes along we’ll just know it and it will be wonderful. I suppose we’ll all look back on our lives in old age and it will all make sense to us, but until then without the benefit of 20/20 hindsight, we’ll have to just do our best each day and hope for the best. I wish you all luck in your individual searches for someone to love, whether it be forever or just for now, to be loved is what we’re all really looking for in some way, shape or form. It’s a basic human need. If there was more love in the world, it would be a much better place to live, I do firmly believe that.
