My mom died October 2; she had been in the hospital for 2 weeks, but it was still a shock because she was actually getting better, then crashed overnight. It's been really hard for me because (A) she's all I've had since my dad died when I was 2 years old and (B) we lived together. I know it's hard to find the right words to offer someone when the lose a loved one, but the stupidest question by far has been "How was the funeral?"
How was it? It RAWKED, dude! The dancing bears we had imported from a Russian circus really won everybody over! And since my brother works for a Budweiser distributor, the company loaned us the Budweiser Clydesdales to pull Mom's casket to the opposite fucking side of town! We were going to have Chippendale dancers at each end of her casket, but thought that might have been a bit over the top....
If you don't know what to say, just say "I'm sorry for your loss" and LEAVE IT AT THAT!!!!!!!