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<BR/>How To Really Love Yourself Now
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<BR/><CENTER><BR/><IMG src="http://www.blankettruth.com/wp-content/uploads/love-yourself.gif"/><BR/><BR/><FONT size="4" face="century gothic" color="dodgerblue"><BR/>How To Really Love Yourself Now<BR/><BR/></FONT></CENTER><FONT size="1" color="tan"><BR/>written by Stephen Russell<BR/><FONT size="2" face="arial" color="black"><BR/>When you really love yourself, you naturally elicit a state of joy and when you continue really loving yourself, you perpetuate that joyful state.<BR/><BR/>This obviously doesn’t preclude wobbles. Wobbles are inevitable. The entire universe is comprised of moving parts, from the subatomic level upwards. Everything is in flux. This is without exception. Everything and everyone manifest is in flux. Flux gives rise to wobbles at various points in the grand motion of reality, as your system accommodates inevitable rushes of new information, against which it has to swiftly recalibrate itself.<BR/><BR/>However, joy-depleting discomfort arising from wobbling can be profoundly lessened by loving yourself as you wobble, rather than castigating yourself for it.<BR/><BR/>Take yourself back to the first time you recall having a serious wobble in your life. Recall how it disturbed you to feel out of control. Recall whether there was an adult present, who, with the best will in the world didn’t handle your wobble trauma that masterfully and at some point in the process made you feel silly for wobbling.<BR/><BR/>If so you’d have internalized them doing that and would have repeated them doing that internally, every time you’ve had a wobble since. You would have done this to protect yourself from the pain of wobble trauma. But of course it didn’t work. The wobbles continued and so did your self-criticism for having them.<BR/><BR/>Incidentally, when I say wobbles here, I refer to all instances of falling off your centre, losing command of your consciousness, through panic, anxiety, self-pity, gloomy beliefs and so on: any negative state that diminishes your joy, in other words. And when I talk about joy, I refer to that natural state of being underlying all other states – the state of innate joy for being alive, being which after all is the biggest miracle possible. I’m implying that this state will inform you whenever you’re not castigating yourself, however subtly, for not being perfect – it will inform you and radiate from you all the while you’re remembering what a miracle it is to be alive, regardless of how perfectly or otherwise you deem you’re handling your affairs.<BR/><BR/>So there you are, that small, wobble-troubled child, standing there waiting for you to say something that will make it feel better. Both modern physics and ancient Taoist mysticism posit that the observer affects the field being observed.<BR/><BR/>So when you go back in time like this to observe your former self, you actually affect your former self, there and then in your former self’s time. You actually change your past and not just in your imagination. Changing your past sets off a quantum chain reaction, which affects your present and your future. Not just in your imagination either – ask any quantum physicist or ancient Taoist sage.<BR/><BR/>Take a moment to heal your wobble-troubled former self. Explain in the kindest, warmest, most loving, supportive, encouraging tone that you’re experimenting with creating a new vehicle that will enable you to continue in a state of perpetual joy from now on regardless of how perfectly or otherwise you appear to be handling life on the mundane level.<BR/><BR/>Now place your former self respectfully just behind you and a little to the left.<BR/><BR/>Next generate a vision of your slightly future self. See you as someone who has somehow (and you don’t need to know how), jumped over all currently perceived obstacles and manifested a magnificent new reality, one that supports sustaining a state of perpetual joy. See yourself as someone who has mastered the art of desisting from self-..castigation, for it is an art, and has thus developed the capacity for remaining perpetually joyful.<BR/><BR/>Place your slightly future self respectfully just in front of you and a little to the right, facing forwards (away from you).<BR/><BR/>Now, take your former self lovingly by the hand, draw your former self across you and nudge your former self gently in through the rear of the skull of your slightly future self, so that your former self is now inside your future self’s body.<BR/><BR/>Now let your former self feel the thrill and exhilaration of pure, unbridled life-joy from within the chest and belly of your future self.<BR/><BR/>Note how joyful your former self now feels.<BR/><BR/>Now draw both of them back into your present self’s body, so that all three of you – former, future and present selves – are all here present and correct, feeling the innate joy of being alive.<BR/><BR/>Practice this move a few times and it will become automatic so that whenever you feel a wobble coming on – about anything, no matter how seemingly big of small – and you notice yourself tensing against it, thus blinding you to appreciating the miracle of being alive, you’ll be able to run the process and right yourself again in a trice.<BR/><BR/>Everyone has to deal with disasters, even masters. The difference with a master when dealing with disaster, is a master reframes faster. It’s all about accelerating the oscillation between self-pity, anxiety, self-doubt, self-castigation or gloom and the masterful state of perpetual joyfulness, simply for being alive.<BR/><BR/>Repeat, ‘I am alive and I love it’, 81 times at some point and watch how magnificent it makes you feel. Thereafter repeat it at least once a day for the rest of your life.<BR/><BR/>The above combo is a perfect example of how it is to love yourself. You’ve given yourself some time, energy and attention and done it in a loving way with an intention for it to make your experience more beautiful and rewarding.<BR/><BR/>Loving yourself, you are then with capacity to love everyone else and be loved back by them.<BR/><BR/>I’ll include a part II of how to love yourself in the vote next week, as there are myriad ways to address it.<BR/><BR/>With love (of course), Barefoot <BR/><BR/><BR/></FONT></FONT><CENTER><FONT size="1" color="tan"><FONT size="2" face="arial" color="black"><IMG src="http://alunajoy.com/x-articlebar.jpg"/><BR/><BR/><FONT size="4" face="century gothic" color="dodgerblue"><BR/>How To Really Love Yourself Now – Part II<BR/><BR/></FONT></FONT></FONT></CENTER><FONT size="1" color="tan"><FONT size="2" face="arial" color="black"></FONT><FONT size="1" color="tan">written by Stephen Russell<BR/><FONT size="2" face="arial" color="black"><BR/>I’m not reading back to see what Part I comprised, I’m a Taoist and go with the flow as you know, so bear with me if I stray into repetitiveness, it won’t be for lack of original thinking on my part, as I’m writing fresh and I do so, along with indulging a long sentence tendency, because I love me.<BR/><BR/>As soon as I say that, the inner traumatised child aspect of me, that kid who was castigated the first time so cruelly by Mrs Reeves in elementary school, for showing off, when in fact all I was doing was proudly displaying some talent for something or other, I can’t remember what now, that inner confused 5 year old, pipes up with, ‘don’t admit to loving yourself, people will think you’re showing off and won’t like you anymore.’<BR/><BR/>And I suspect we all have a similar voice inside, the one that tells us not to admit to loving ourselves. Loving ourselves is natural – we are expressions of the Tao in human form and the love is the Tao and vice versa, ergo we are love, hence loving ourselves is 100% natural and primordially wired in. But if we’ve spent decades pretending at some level we don’t love ourselves, we inevitably buy into the pretence and so in effect stop loving ourselves. And that’s why this topic won the vote again.<BR/><BR/>So the first thing is to go back through time and say to that inner confused child, words to the effect that ‘it’s OK to love yourself – it’s the natural state – there’s no need to buy into the pretence in case people don’t like you – people like you when you like yourself enough to like them, so let yourself feel the love for yourself and feeling it, you’ll feel it for others and them for you – and it won’t make you arrogant, conceited or narcissistic, it will make you healthy and whole. So don’t stop loving yourself,’ and so on.<BR/><BR/>Make sure you feel your inner traumatized child take note and take it on board.<BR/><BR/>It is my sincere, considered opinion that whenever you go back in time like this, it’s not just imaginary, it actually does affect that younger self at that time – as in your present adult self is the healing angel the child felt at the time and derived the strength to carry on from.<BR/><BR/>Be that as it may, you gain more cohesion as a unified presence in terms of lending power to your intention to love yourself more by going back to heal and reintegrate that formerly split-off traumatized aspect of you.<BR/><BR/>Next comes setting up a regular daily gesture of love. Just as in relationship with someone else, where it’s the complex series of gestures made between you that gives the dynamic its adhesive, in your relationship with you, you need gestures to remind you and reinforce the bond between all your various aspects of self.<BR/><BR/>This could comprise any activity that strengthens you in all senses: physical, emotional, mental and so on – any activity that will develop your innate life-skills – sitting to breathe, meditate, doing chi gung, tai chi, running, swimming, making creative visualizations and so on. The crucial thing is that it’s something entirely and utterly for you, not in a self-indulgent way – it requires discipline and willingness to face challenge – but it’s for you.<BR/><BR/>And doing it, do it because you love yourself not because you have to.<BR/><BR/>And specifically, for the purposes of this piece, include in at some point in the gesture/..ritual, looking at each part of your body, your hand, your arm, your nose, your feet and so on and saying aloud, ‘I love you’ – without judgment or self-criticism – pure unconditional love. And every time throughout the day, you think about yourself, which will be often if you remain mindful enough to notice, start and end the thought, with, ‘I love you’.<BR/><BR/>After a while you get used to it, it stops feeling strange and by then you’re already well on the road to loving yourself for evermore without that self-interference habit getting in the way of it.<BR/><BR/>I’ll include part III as an option because it feels important and resonant.<BR/><BR/>Love – and I’m not just saying that – I never just say it, Doc<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/> <CENTER><IMG src="http://alunajoy.com/x-articlebar.jpg"/><BR/><FONT size="4" face="century gothic" color="dodgerblue"><BR/><BR/>How To Really Love Yourself Now Part III<BR/><BR/></FONT></CENTER></FONT><FONT size="1" color="tan"><BR/>written by Stephen Russell<BR/><FONT size="2" face="arial" color="black"><BR/>I love that we have this resonance.<BR/><BR/>I love that we are willing and desirous of exploring the realm of love together in this way.<BR/><BR/>I love that I’m able to sit here and type the words, that I’m able to think the words, to see them, as if I’m in conversation with you, which I am.<BR/><BR/>I love that and I love that there’s a time lag between me typing the words and you reading them, yet that lag vanishes as soon as you read the words.<BR/><BR/>I love that I can reach across time to you like this.<BR/><BR/>And across space.<BR/><BR/>I love the idea of all the people who have gone before – all the ancestors – all the people who’ve ever been here and how they’ve shaped the world for us.<BR/><BR/>And I love the idea of all the people who are here now – all the brilliant minds who’ve created and are creating this internet system – and all the other systems that make life so electric in all senses.<BR/><BR/>I love how we find ourselves at an apparent crossroads in human history and how slowly but surely (and very quickly really), the collective consciousness is undergoing a radical shift of what I assume to be unprecedented proportions.<BR/><BR/>I love how I haven’t a clue where this piece is going and I love how it feels as if some form of greater consciousness than the everyday is pushing my fingers onto the keys.<BR/><BR/>I love how I managed to wake up today and though feeling groggy at first was soon in the thrilling sunlight doing Hsing I and feeling the strength surging through my limbs.<BR/><BR/>I love the tea I’m drinking.<BR/><BR/>I love being alive right now.<BR/><BR/>And I love being alive as me.<BR/><BR/>I love being me.<BR/><BR/>I love me.<BR/><BR/>That was a spontaneous process by way of example in terms of one version of how to really love yourself: change the inner dialogue, so rather than telling yourself, I hate this, I’m scared of that, I don’t want this I do want that and so on, tell yourself how much you love everything.<BR/><BR/>It’s a totally valid choice and is totally your choice to make.<BR/><BR/>You command your own experience of reality – no one and nothing else, no matter how it may appear to the contrary.<BR/><BR/>By changing the way you’re speaking to yourself about reality, you change the way you see it and the way you see it is the way it will be.<BR/><BR/>Now you think of yourself as you, the individual, with your specific story and so on – you have huge investment in that picture, But beyond that you are an expression of life - of the Love informing all life – so by projecting your love onto life in its various guises as above (I love this, I love that, I love being alive to love this and that etc), you are really loving yourself, not just the surface and not even just the depth, but that presence informing both the surface and the depth of you.<BR/><BR/>And it even goes beyond that, even beyond taking yourself for a lovely treat or whatever but obviously may and should include that at your earliest convenience, in order to celebrate your love. It goes beyond overcoming low self-esteem issues. It goes beyond healing yourself from all your acquired negativity and from all former wounds.<BR/><BR/>This is love talking to love, me talking to you, you talking to those in your world.<BR/><BR/>This is love knowing itself.<BR/><BR/>Love, Doc<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><A href="http://www.msplinks.com/MDFodHRwOi8vd3d3LmJhcmVmb290ZG9jdG9yZ2xvYmFsLmNvbQ==">Barefoot Doctor</A><BR/><BR/><BR/></FONT></FONT></FONT></FONT><CENTER><FONT size="1" color="tan"><FONT size="1" color="tan"><FONT size="1" color="tan"><FONT size="2" face="arial" color="black"><A href="http://www.myspace.com/ker2gr8c">blue lotus nυμφαία </A></FONT></FONT></FONT></FONT></CENTER><FONT size="1" color="tan"><FONT size="1" color="tan"><FONT size="1" color="tan"><FONT size="2" face="arial" color="black"></FONT></FONT></FONT></FONT>

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