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You're reading this because your relationship came to a screeching halt, because your boyfriend, for whatever reason(s) decided to put the brakes on the relationship.  Now your mind is probably reeling.  If you still care about him, you probably want to know how to get your ex boyfriend back.  If you keep reading, you'll find some advice that can help drastically improve your chances of doing just that.

Realize that you're programmed differently than him.  What exactly does this mean?  Well, evolution has made it so that men are generally more logical and women are more emotional.  While it may seem like a good idea to appeal to him with raw emotion while being upset or crying, this will actually work against you. 

This can push him away from you.  It can actually make him feel justified in breaking up with you.  When it comes to knowing how to get your ex boyfriend back, this isn't the path you want to choose.  It is best if you cut off all communication with him until you follow the steps below.

You have to stay calm.  You have to think things through.  You have to decide if you really want to be with him.  Are you upset because you're feeling scared about being alone and single again?  Was the relationship a good one, overall?  Did you fight more than you had good times?  You have to be completely honest with yourself.

If you decide that the relationship overall was very good and that you do want your ex boyfriend, not because you don't want to be single, but because you love him, then you can move forward.  The next step on knowing how to get your ex boyfriend back is to know what went wrong in the relationship.  If he didn't tell you what went wrong, then this is going to take some work on your part.  Obviously, he broke up with you because there was something missing or lacking in the relationship.

Look and feel your best.  One of the biggest secrets of how to get your ex boyfriend back is to make sure you always look and feel your best.  When someone breaks up with you, it can really do some damage to your self-confidence and self-esteem.  You'll never be attractive to your ex boyfriend, if you let this get to you.

This is a great time to start exercising, if you're not exercising already.  It will help you to feel better about yourself and you will look better and that will further make you feel better about yourself.  You should splurge a little and get some new makeup, a new hairstyle, get some clothing that makes you feel sexy and confident.

Start being independent and live life.  Get out with the girls have some fun.  Go dancing, go window shopping, get manicures, pedicures, go to some chick flicks, whatever.  While you're out with the girls flirt with some other cute guys.  It will help boost your confidence.

After you do all of the above, then it is okay to get back in touch with your ex again.  Tell him what you've been up to lately.  Tell him about your new clothes, makeup, and hair style.  Tell him about the cute guys who were flirting with you.  After all of this, he'll probably want to see you again.  If he does, great, go slow.  Make sure you keep in mind why you think he broke up with you in the first place and try to avoid that behavior.

If he doesn't really care, doesn't want to see you, or seems to have moved on, it's no big deal.  By now you should be so absorbed into your own life that you really don't care whether you get back with him or not.  While it would be nice, you've proven you don't NEED him.  By reading this, and following the plan, you'll be way better educated about most other women on knowing how to get your ex boyfriend back.