seeker25801's blog: "Things you ought to know but might not"

Women live in a unique social environment today, as witnessed by the below quotes from Miss Lohan. With the empowerment of sex and being able to enjoy yourself sexually with little to no consequence, women obtain the power that was once only a man's to have and give - the power of choice.

However, even most women, prefer to attach a stigma to a woman who may 'give them a bad name' by professing her long list of partners. See, the freedoms given to women through the Sexual Revolution were unique freedoms. While the bra burners have no problem forcing you to deal with their choices, the rest of the women out there have friends, families, and jobs that could be affected by the knowledge that they are so loose with their morals. Tom Leykis once referred to this as the need for Plausible Deniability.

From Lindsay Lohan's interview with News of the World:

Sex And The City changed everything for me because those girls would just sleep with so many people. And that's me. I'm not dating just one person. It is the variety of partners everyone likes, especially at my age. I'm like Angelina Jolie, taking on lovers. I don't need a steady relationship. I mean if the sex is bad, the relationship's not going anywhere. Anyway, I don't even think I have had my best kiss yet. I have only been in love once and that was with Wilmer. But the timing was bad. And there were all these girls around. He would flirt and I couldn't handle that. I couldn't trust him. My mum's going to kill me for talking about sleeping with people - but if I'm going to give my body to someone, I'd rather them not be with other people. It's very old-fashioned.

I'm not knocking Lindsay here. Hell, I applaud her loose lips. Most men would agree that she'd be an excellent hump-trophy. Even if she's not a woman you'd ever bring home to mom.

I'll get a little more into plausible deniability in a few other articles - it's something that deeply interests me because we hear it all the time. Ever hear one of these sentences:

"We were just hanging out… One thing just led to another…"

or

"I was just so drunk.. it just happened"

Those are favorites of mine, and ones you hear when the scores of hot, young, college chicks get back from exotic locations where they went to Spring Break with "just the girls", but ended up … "just happening" … with a bunch of guys.

A woman wants her freedom to choose to act this way - but also the ability to retain her "not a slut" status. After all, a man like James Bond who takes on lovers recklessly is a stud, while a woman that does the same is a whore. The ever present double standard. The quarterback and the cheerleader.

In the end, I think this is best chalked up to plain stupidity. As you've noticed if you've kept up with Lohan's attempt to rehab herself, this girl isn't going to be attending Mensa meetings anytime soon. However, this dirty trash that gets aired for her, is the same that most 20 year olds get the luxury of hiding from those that they feel may judge.

Now I'm not a judgmental person, but I do believe in calling things what they are. The more we try to live the "perceive me as I say I am, not as I act" lifestyle, the more we perpetuate this nasty stereotype that probably causes more damage than it should.