HOW PLAYERS HOOK YOU IN
The scenario with a Player usually goes a
little something like this:
You're out with your girlfriends and you
spot a really attractive guy checking you out
from across the room.
You both make eye contact and he heads over
to you and he immediately says something like:
"I usually don't do this, but you're the most
beautiful woman I've seen in a long time, and I
just HAD to talk to you."
He may offer to buy you a drink. He may say
something funny or sarcastic.
And you're disarmed by his looks, his
confidence and charm, and in the back of your
mind you wonder if he's a little too good to
be true.
You know you should hold back a little and
you wonder who this guy REALLY IS, but you just
can't seem to help yourself...
Next thing you know, you feel that rush of
excitement and anticipation the more you talk
and laugh together, and by the end of the evening
he may even casually ask if he can come over and
"hang out" a bit longer with you.
Or just grab a drink and keep "talking".
You hardly hesitate before saying yes.
In your mind, inviting him back to your place
seems completely OK... even though you're NOT
the kind of woman who does this sort of thing
when you first meet a man.
But you're SURE that there's something
DIFFERENT about this guy. And he assures you that
he's a "good" guy and he's really into you - at
least indirectly.
Which makes it O.K. Why shouldn't you enjoy
the moment with this great guy you've just met?
And before you know it, you're back at his
place or yours, and things get physical and you
spend the night together.
But then it happens...
The next morning he seems a little different.
He's not so chatty and curious about you.
He's actually kind of quiet and withdrawn...
and you start getting that "gut feeling" that
you may have made a TERRIBLE MISTAKE.
As he leaves he tells you that he'll
DEFINITELY call you.
You want to believe him, but either he never
calls you... or after a couple of random e-mails
or calls or text messages, he stops calling
altogether.
And it dawns on you...
This guy wasn't DIFFERENT.
He wasn't SPECIAL.
And he certainly wasn't going to be the
love of your life.
This guy is a PLAYER!
You're so mad and embarrassed that you've
been played AGAIN, it almost makes you want
to give up on love altogether.
Lots of women in this situation become
understandably frustrated, upset, and end up
feeling and acting a little "weird" around men
they meet after this happens.
Part of this is of course because, at a deeper
level, they've lost TRUST in men.
Don't let what you don't know, and what you
haven't been able to identify in men before when
you've "dated" keep from allowing a great
relationship to start and grow with the RIGHT
MAN.
Learn what you need to know to truly understand
how men think, and quickly separate the great
guys from the toads. That way... you won't have
to kiss any more frogs.
