Mysteryfoxx's blog: "Dating in Maine"

 I know dating these days are difficult. I can sympathize with any one who is dating these days.

When i was in my twenties, it was never this difficult... EVER!! But, by the time i was 22 i had my first baby, and by the time i was 24 i had my second baby, and by the time i was 26 i had my third ( was married to the same man for all pregnancies) How ever, the reason for that Divorce, he cheated. So, i got divorced, than a couple of years later, i got married again. Married to that man for 11 years, and once again, he cheated. I was a devoted wife to both men. Never complained about money, or bills or anything really. I was always supportive. But they would tell you a different story, such as how I changed during our relationship... well of course i changed, i had 3 kids, and was married to a man-child who played "Dungeons and dragons" and never really helped out with the kids.... (what does this have to due with dating? you ask) Well...

It has made me gun shy so to speak. I am petrified of having any kind of commitment, and as soon as i think it will get serious, i tuck tail and run. My fault actually. But my 3rd relationship, we lived to gether, never got married, and he decided to up and leave... just "poof" gone. No letter, no phone call, nothing. That was a year ago.

I have been single for a full year, i have found myself again, and i am thinking that is why men do not want to date me. I have become that loud mouthed, forward, honest woman. I will tell you how it is, and how to go screw yourself. I got my backbone back. I have found my own two feet. I support myself, i feed myself, i pay my own bills, my own rent, with no help from anyone!!  That does not make me any less of a lady, but how ever, i am finding men do not like a woman with a foul mouth, tattoos, or piercings. I am also finding it hard to date men older than myself (i don't have daddy issues)

Dating these days... Do not judge women or men on there past. Do not judge them at all. And why are people so afraid to approach others... if you think she is pretty, don't be a creep about it, just say so... but women today is what making it hard out there. Do not pass judgement on that man... he thinks you are pretty. Smile and say "Thank you" express yourself as well.

We are all stuck in the "technology age" We didn't have that technology 20 years ago. We went to bars and met people. We went to stores. Today, we are at home on our computers, on dating sites, on facebook, on our phones!! BIG pet peeve... those damn cell phones... Hello you are on a date... and not with your phone. how rude. Maybe i am stuck in the past of dating, and how things were better than they are today. My question is why be so rude as to stand someone up, if you are not interested, just say so. Why the games... why the cheating? why the need to lie? It hurts, and people don;t realize that because of people like that... they manage to hurt our spirit on the fun part of dating. Just keep one thing in mind... honesty pays off. Just be honest.