Ladies, some of us guys just don’t get it. We don’t get what you mean when you say “cheat”. See, to most men, if we didn’t sleep with someone, then “no harm, no foul”. But, in today’s complicated love space, it’s hard to know what cheating is. So, what do you have to do to get it across to us?
It’s probably as easy as the “Golden Rule” which is “do unto others as you would have them to do unto you.” What this means is that you should treat other people like you want to be treated.
So that takes us back to cheating. You and your man have been seeing each other for about a year. He is about to go to a close friend’s bachelor party. Can he get a lap dance? Most guys would think that this is harmless fun. But, a woman just needs to ask the guy to behave as he would want her to behave. If he doesn’t mind some dirt ball exotic dancer rubbing his genitals all over your leg, then he won’t have any problem getting a similar dance from a woman. However, the thought of another man rubbing a woody on his woman should keep him away from the strippers.
Does this work for emotional affairs? Yes! An emotional affair can be done without anybody ever touching or kissing. It’s as simple as one partner having an “emotional” entanglement with a person outside of the relationship. This would be represented by phone calls, lunches, talks and friendship. So, just tell your man, that if he thinks it’s okay for you to have a “work friend” then he should to. Men will always say no.
Now, another word of advice to women: deal with whatever is wrong in your relationship! Happy people don’t cheat! The relationship is too valuable. When we are happy, we view this relationship like the most precious thing on earth and we would kill to protect it. However, an unhappy man will seek a way out. He should just walk out the front door, but some “test the market” before making a full scale exit.
So, final advice is simple. Tell your man that he should act like he would want you to act. If he doesn’t mind you getting lap dances, then maybe he’s not really happy with your relationship. And, keep working on the relationship because “Happy people don’t cheat.”
by The Average Guy
