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As I prepare Easter dinner as I have for the past 26+ years I'm taken over by memories of growing up. I was snapping beans and I remembered a time when this "chore" was an everyday part of life. I can remember when snapping beans was a way for the older ladies to come together for gossip and reflection. I remember my grandmother having me snap beans or shuck corn as busy work when my mind was troubled. She would often say you need a little work to help solve a problem of the mind or heart. Her way of tackling a problem often worked and it still holds true today. A little busy work helps clear the mind and nourishes the soul.
It was a simpler time then. There was no internet, cell phones, or social media. You wanted to talk to someone you visited them that was social media of the time. An actual face to face conversation. There were no demeaning remarks left on platforms. Problems were often solved by fists or talking to the person you were angry with. You didn't air your dirty laundry online and women actually came together to help one another. The funny thing is that often women would speak ill of one another only in private yet they still managed to come together to help with a harvest, newborn baby, or to wish a newly married couple well. In times of need anger was forgotten and there was always a helping hand there to offer support when needed.
This quarantine and social distancing has made me realized that in my younger years this was the norm. The only time people got together in large groups was to celebrate, help with harvests, funerals, weddings, and church on Sundays. Your business was your business. As I've said it was a simpler time. Family meant everything and traditions were honored. It's a pity that things have changed so drastically that we have forgotten our values and traditions.
See busy work allows you deep thought and also allows memories to come flooding back. It has made me realize that my family traditions and values are still very much an important part of my life. Even when life gets busy and you feel like there isn't enough time in the day, remember that stopping and doing some busy work, whatever it may be, will give you a chance for reflection and is a way of remembing what is most important.
Happy Easter everyone. May God or whomever you believe in shine many blessings upon you and yours!
Interesting discussion with a group of my closest lady friends. The topic today was "what is your definition of the perfect man?". Every single woman answered the question differently. They each had one specific characteristic. They were a good heart, good looks, and loyality as their must have aspect of their perfect man. Interestingly enough only two said their perfect man must be able to make them laugh. Most of the characteristics they wanted were superficial ones. That being said it was a little bit of a let down knowing that most of these intelligent women were only looking for basic things.
Only my closest friend and I gave more complicated answers to the question. We both thought that while the basic characteristics were ok they weren't the most important. My answer caused a hush over the entire group. I said the perfect man is the one that is aware of his flaws, one that is self-aware, conscious of how he makes others feel, thinks before he speaks and one that isn't afraid to admit when he is wrong. One that talks through his problems and one that knows that if you treat a good woman right she will treat you even better. I have never been a superficial person and I have never sought out superficial characteristics in a friend or a man.
It's disheartening to see that 4 out of 6 women in my group refused to look beneath the surface and get to know the real person in which they were interested. This leads me to believe that even though some women say they want a good man they don't really know what a good man is and that how they preformed in bed and look more important than how they are treated by their significant others.
Most of them viewed sex as a means to an end. Something that should be done and done right if they are lucky. I was also the one out of the group that thought that sex was just sex. It's a way to relieve stress and frustration. Don't get me wrong I really enjoy the sexual aspect of a relationship. It's also a way to bring two people closer to each other. But persoanlly I believe that sex should be something that is between two people that care for and understand each other. There are ways to scratch an itch besides looking for the nearest willing man or woman. There is a perfectly good reason why batteries were invented.
It's amazing how so many women with differing views can come together and have discussions on varing topics. I've learned so much from these ladies and I have great respect for each of them even though I don't agree with some of their ideas.
What is your idea of the "perfect man" or "perfect woman"? What does sex mean to you? Im interested in hearing your thoughts on the subjects.
It's funny how memories of the past can come to you when least expected. Today I was reminded of a time 2 years ago when I thought I was madly in love. A friend of mine was teasing me about my screen name on the app KIK. I haven't used it in over 2 years but when he mentioned it I was reminded of what felt like the best year and a half of my life.
I met this amazing, charasmatic, funny, sexy as hell British guy on here. He was so damn charming and sweet. He drew me in with his humor and how he would always listen to me even when I didn't make much sense to myself. We fell in love or so I thought. Anyway, we started a long distance relationship and it was working out great. We even started talking about me making the move to England and making it permanent. A long distance relationship is hard enough when it's a city or states away but it's especially hard when there is a huge pond keeping you apart.
The distance and longing to be together was very hard to handle at times. Then things changed and they changed quickly. He quit talking to me and wouldn't return texts. I never knew what went wrong. I even blamed myself for awhile. Then I realized it wasn't meant to be. I hadn't done anything wrong. He had. Anyway, the time for blame is long past. The loss of the connection hurt yet it was an experience I could never regret.
Loving someone is easy if you accept them for who they are. I loved him greatly and I learned that it's ok to love. It's ok to move on and it's ok to learn from lifes experiences. This life lesson tought me to be a stronger woman and I also learned that being soft isn't a negative thing. Nothing in life is permanent. Learning to love without regret is an amazing part of being human.
Life is amazing, it's beautiful, and it's wonderful. It's all in how you see life. How you handle all of lifes ups and downs. Love often even when it hurts but be strong enough to move on if that love isn't returned. Your made for better things. It's your life, live it the way you feel it should be lived. Don't regret your choices but learn from them and live your life to the fullest.
I'm new to this blog business and it's kind of out of my comfort zone. A Little of Everything is a blog that will contain pretty much as it says, a little of everything. From thoughts, experiences, specific topics, and meanderings from my over active mind. This blog entry is just to let you know a little about what I will be blogging about and to be perfectly honest it could get a bit confusing at times. Then again it is a blog about my thoughts and experiences. It's not about how many readers I will get or how popular I can be. It's about having a place to share my thoughts. Anyway, that's it for an introduction. Oh and any tips on writing blogs are always appreciated.
