well I am looking for more than just an intimate encounter, I am looking for someone to take control of my soul, to taste the flavor of my excitement, someone that, just by touch or words makes my body quiver, someone who is open minded,creative, adventurous and spontaneous.Someone who is gentle yet aggressive, sexy and ravenous yet romantic, playful and confident,am a very open minded person and very accepting.am affectionate and passionate.I hope I've inspired your interesti shall be looking forward to your reply with you telling me all about yourself,about your hobbies..........................................................There is a difference between an independence which comes from strength and one which is a retreat from life,the retrenchment of a spirit not trusting in itself..And while I know we are all afraid of being hurt and take two steps back for every forward one we take,the truth is the moment when we are most ourselves is when we reach out and answer the call from someone else..It is very difficult to accept the fact that there are no guarantees in life,no guarantees that life will progress as it should or that the people you care about will love you back,or even that they will treat you right..But trust in life does not mean trusting that life will always be good or that it will be free of grief and pain..It means trusting that somewhere inside yourself you can find the strength to go forth and meet what comes and,even if you meet betrayal and disappointment along the way,go forth again the very next day. maybe we all are just stuck in the process of self love..about doing your own thing and being yourself,and those who talk of understanding,of intimacy,or love,talk largely to themselves..it is easy when you've been hurt by love to give up as a bad job and make independence your new god,taking the love you had to give and turning it in upon yourself...and most of us have had to protect ourselves so much at times that we've given up the high road and taken the low..but independence carried to the furthest extreme is just loneliness,nothing more than another defense,and there is no growth in it,only a safe harbor for a while..the answer does not lie in learning how to protect ourselves from life, it lies in learning how to become strong enough to let a bit more of it in...and that is the direction in which I am myself trying to head...I know that many people feel they have to draw away,and others so damaged from the wars can never fight again...I know the joys of owning yourself..I have sung that song myself..but dimly and from a hidden place,I hear a most insistent voice saying to anyone who wants to hear,there is no growth without love...