SELF SUMMARY:I am open minded, fun loving and happy-go-lucky. I'm easy going, flexible, honest, friendly and relatively down to earth. I am available for making friends and dating. I'm an ex-gothic, ex-rocker, ex-stoner, ex-nerd, ex-christian, ex-husband. That doesnt mean I dont like those things anymore, they will always be a part of me, but they will never be ALL of me.I spent some time in the Navy and hated most of it.I am interested in the Paranormal, Forensics, Psychology, History, Horror, writing, relationships, gaming, movies ,music, cooking, books, all kinds of subjects.I've got two children, one boy and one girl, the same age -by differant moms. I know, right? OK, they are both 11 years old and three months apart if that makes any differance. My children live with their mothers, but I typically have them for parenting time every other weekend. I love my children and do whatever I can for them.I'm not much the out-doorsy type, although I am up for walks and hikes on occasion. I do enjoy camping, like once or twice in a summer. I dont need much excitement in my life. I just want someone to spend some time with me, I dont care much what it is we do: movies, dinner, laundry, chores, walking around down town, grocery shopping, errands, movies, dinners, simple relaxing things. Let me do nice things for you and spoil you a little, I can be very affectionate, but I can also need my space, and respect your's as well. I'll listen to you talk about anything and I often have an interesting outlook or insight. I tend to think outside the box, and a little off the wall.I hate sports. I dont watch sports, but you might catch me watching womens figure ice skating or womens spring break volly ball.Aside from when I am at work ,I dont watch much television at home. Rented movies are fine though.I like to cuddle, maybe brush your hair -if it is long, I like brunettes typically, but I dont really care what color it is. I do not mind getting out the lotion, rubbing your feet, and sometimes giving you a back rub after you have had a bad day. Back rubs would be rare though, I do not think I am good at it and can get bored of it rather soon. We'll call them 'Quickie' back rubs.I am looking to settle down and have a committed one on one relationship, without that pesky piece of paper called a marriage. But, if we are still together after 3 years, and we can still look into each-others eyes with love and devotion...I might, just might, go out and buy an affordable engagement ring for you. Dont let that disuade you -my rules are always written to be broken, depending on circumstance. I obviously have not met someone yet who has interested me otherwise. I can not see the future. At the moment it is a fairly low priority and any ideas of marriage should be approached with extreme caution. I'm divorced after-all and want to make sure it is done right the next time if it is to be done at all.What I want is pretty simple: appreciation, respect, honesty and affection. Treat me good and I will treat you good. Treat me bad and I will tell you how I feel about it....if you dont listen, I will disappear from your life in a heart-beat. 'Love is a deadly game in which the heart becomes the victim.' ( I wrote that ) I have been hurt many times in love... it's not that I have bad luck with women -I have great luck with women, I just typically have exceedingly bad taste when it comes to women. Yeah, I'm working on that as we speak. I dont care about the pain that can sometimes come with love, sometimes I actually quite enjoy it, makes me feel human, but I'd prefer it the feelings of pain be few and far between. I have given love so many chances, but will never give up on it. There is someone out there for me and I will keep waiting for her, no I am not necessarily 'looking' for her. I am hoping for the life partner, the soul mate, and the light at the end of the tunnel.I take what comes my way with quiet, calm, dignity, and grace. (ROFL! Yeah right.)I can wear my heart on my sleeve or hide it in a very deep dark place. I'm a Cancer afterall -gotta love it. Would be really super fantastic to meet a Pisces (or a Taurus? ) -supposed to be my astrological dream match...but who really knows? Obviously I am not your average every-day type of guy, I am as unique as they come. I do tend to get along well with Geminis, Pisces, and Aquairius it seems.WHAT I AM DOING WITH MY LIFE RIGHT NOW:Writing. Just got my first book available on Amazon.com. Spending time with friends and family, living for the moment, watching time soar by and looking for love. I'm always working on a pulitzer prize winning novel. I prefer life simple, convenient, stress free, relaxed, and quiet. WHAT I AM GOOD AT:Writing. I usually write fiction stories with elements of suspense, mystery and gothic horror. I am also good at kissing, or so I have been told. I dabble on the keyboard/synthesizer. Paint Shop Pro 7 and photoshopping. Cooking; I make Eggplant Parmegan, Swedish Meatballs, Romanian Chicken, Hungarian Chicken Paprikash, FrenchToast, Omelettes, Gumbo, Sausage Creole, Super Fantastic French Toast, Bachelour Surprise, you name it. Your favorite dish? I'll learn to cook it for you if I really like you. Cheering people up, making people laugh.FIRST THINGS PEOPLE NOTICE ABOUT ME:Tall and Smiling, red hair, green eyes. I am 6'2" tall. Average body. When I am in a good mood I tend to speak with a fake, albeit fairly convincing, English accent. I often dye my hair black. I like it like that, get used to it. I am very friendly, flirtacious, and outgoing. I am very easy going and personable. I can blend in within many groups or differant types of people and can get along with most anyone on some level or another. I SPEND A LOT OF TIME THINKING ABOUT:Admittedly what every other guy thinks about every 2.5 seconds except for me it's more like every 2.5 days. That was supposed to be amusing. I think about all kinds of things, I am seldom thinking of the same subject for much longer than fifteen minutes or so, unless it is something of dire importance and demands my focus and attention for a longer period of time. ON A TYPICAL FRIDAY NIGHT I AM:Listening to music, writing, perhaps having a pint of rum mixed with diet coke. MOST PRIVATE THINGS I AM WILLING TO ADMIT:I have like 10 songs by Lada Gaga, yeah I know...thats a deal breaker for you I am sure.I'm a Constitutionalist, I wanted Ron Paul for President 2008, with Alex Jones as Vice-President.Yeah, thats me with goth make-up on in my pics. I might be inclined, on occassion, to 'Goth Out' and hit the club for a few hours just for fun. I'm fairly 'normal' the rest of the time and dont dress as such, oh but I love to wear black, alot. I know, I should post some pics of what I look like on an average day, but the way I see it, if you dont want to talk to me because you cant see what I look like 'normaly' than I probably dont want to talk to you either. I am quite handsome and attractive and dont need to flatter myself (or you) by posting a lot of vanity pics.I have absolutely no ambitions or goals other than personal growth on a day to day basis. I am quite content with my life the way it is. I own and live in a mobile home trailer and have my own car. I have no clue what I want to do with my life other than to love and live for the moment and see my daughter grow up. I have little to offer other than love and companionship. So, if you are a gold digger, move on, no money here for you. I am not rich and have no real solid plans to better my financial situation. Money means almost nothing to me. Sorry. ( If you want to give me some, however, I will gladly accept it -and probably end up spending it all on you anyhow)I dress the look of the mild mannered bad boy, but I am somewhat more of a lamb in wolves clothing.Most of my romantic life I have been the notorious 'temporary boyfriend' with a history of short term relationships never lasting more than three years, but I am really wanting to change that.I have dated older women. (call me a 'grave robber' if you will)As you can probably tell I can be somewhat of an open book, I see no point in keeping secrets that could hinder a potential relationship. Might as well be upfront and honest to see if a potential partner can accept me for who I am. I have even darker secrets too and I'll eventually share them with you, but you had better really be an open minded person and understand that yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift.How can you say, I go about things the wrong way? I am human and I need to be loved, just like everybody else does. WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR:•Straight girls only•Ages 30-40•Near me•Who are single•For new friends, long-term dating, activity partners You should message me if... you are a woman who knows what she wants. I think the woman should make the first move, then the guy will know it's appropriate to move into her space and get to know her better. If you are still interested in knowing me after all you have read so far, there is so much more to get to know. I do not think I am a complicated individual, but without a doubt, multi-faceted. Slightly older ladies 45 and under dont be shy...I'm open to the possibilities.