When we think of the self as an ongoing struggle rather than as a static thing, it is natural to also think of ourselves as an unfolding event or happening. What defines my identity as a person of a specific sort is not some enduring set of properties I have through time, but is instead the "event of becoming" in which I struggle to find a resolution to the tension that defines my situation in the world. As an ongoing happening, I AM what I make of myself throughout the course of my life as a whole. I just try to experience life in a way that suits me, whatever THAT is!! i don't know which path is "right". so, i just go along with it and try to make the best decisions that i can make at the time i'm making them. it seems that no matter what plans i make or expectations i may have, everything always turns out completely different than anything i could have possibly imagined. i've come to the conclusion that i can only try to do my best. i'm definitely not perfect and i wouldn't want to be. that would be boring, my flaws are really my best attributes and if you don't get that then FUCK YOU.