well i would be toby, lol yup thats my real name and i am a female...lol i have 3 kids ages 23 son, 20 n 10 yr old daughters. my son was just so quick to make me a grandmom , so yup im 42 with a grandaughter lol i was in the delivery room for the whole 18 hrs with them and it was the best thing i ever experienced..i am a cardio vascular tech, a single mom for just about 5 yrs now...i guess by my pics u can see im not ur average 42yr old...lol i luv to party im what u might call a wknd warrior!!but on the other hand i luv the beach and to walk the boards and the beach at night,i luuuuv scary movies until its over and i have to go to bed then im a big baby haha n yes i get scared...i have accomplished alot over these past 5 yrs. and everything i have i own and paid for myself!! not a handout at all...im very proud of myself, its been hard but you do what u have to do to get up and make things happen..im a very anxious person, i hate to sot still lol always full of energy...im pretty happy with my life right now and yes i would like to meet that someone special to live the rest of my life out with..my 10 yr old is the only one who lives with me now the other two are out on theie own..yeah!!! haha my lil one goes to her fathers every thur. to sun. so thats my time to chill and do me..so i guess thats about it and if you want to know anything else please ask ...