After a long deliberation, decided to readdress my approach in this website. I need to come forward and reveal certain facts. I believe this will discourage many lady readers who visit my profile. Well, that is the intent in a way. Truthfulness, let’s start with that. Here we go, I have to disclose that I am in a relationship. Yes, this is something many will not tolerate and that’s ok. I want to be straightforward and eliminate any false impression. Completely understand that many are not here to be involved with anyone maintaining a relationship with someone else. You can stop reading right now and thank you for visiting. Now, if you still reading then I can explain my reasons of being here. Previous visitors of my profile had learned that I am in a precarious relationship. I don’t want to say everything is all bad. Just that we haven’t weed out all the issues that are making us an unfit relationship. Instead of looking for commonalities to resolve them, we had created an environment not fruitful for improvement. The struggle had grown us apart and maybe thinks are not going to get better. I guess many of you experienced these yourselves. In communications received from online friends, they pointing out, if I am not happy why not terminate and move on. I consider that many times and still do; for whatever I decided to do it could happen anyway. In my opinion, while we are together things can improve or get worse, who knows. People stay in relationships for many reasons, in my case is more about not destroying a good friendship. We may not be good lovers together, but I feel we can be great friends. And, I want to be able to prevent a really ugly break up, more like an amicable resolution and staying friends, because I still value many of her qualities. In the mean time, I have to be realistic, she may not like it anyway and developing extreme dislike for the situation is inevitable. No one likes failure or break ups. She discussed breaking up many times, but it seems we do not how to deal with that. Some days she acts as if nothing is going on and other days she is ready to move on. It is making me crazy. Had a long hard look at all the facts. For instance, my age as a factor, hey I’m not a young stud any longer. Previous experiences, all my previous relationships ended in similar circumstances, disappointed and heartbroken. Convenience, important question to answer, where am I going to go? Start over, that’s hard to swallow (This is something perhaps not well received, because many of you went thru that, me too twice. I don’t want to go through that again without a plan). I’d meditated in the possibility of moving out and then remember about my mother. After her relationship went sour, she had a hard time finding her ideal partner. Saw her going through many depressing periods and she is now in her 70s and alone. She was too constrained in her demands for a perfect partner; the same way I see many ladies’ profiles in this site. We are looking for a special person, however, that ideal person in our minds may not even be real or if we are lucky, the closest to us probably lives in Singapore, what are the chances to ever meet her (or him in your case). Disclosing all this information is really important. What do I want to achieve? Right now, I want to meet nice people and believe it could be hope out there, just to keep my positive attitude alive. If things don’t improve, (I don’t want to be pessimist, but) after all these years, I am going to take myself out of the goal of finding the perfect person. I am going to embrace being alone again. This may sound sad, reality is, there are a lot of lonely people out there, just by checking out this dating site. Hey, nothing to feel bad about, just it is part of the normal transition of things. I will try to make and meet as many friends as possible, going to make it my goal; no more restricting myself to one person and environment. To be honest, I will be extremely selective on any future romantic interest. However, I’m all open for friendship as long there is no attachments. When the time comes and I am ready for dating again, if you like to know, here is a list of some of my desires and expectations (for information only). What are my expectations for any possible ideal girlfriend? On the physical characteristics: She needs to enjoy physical fitness, be physical fit or if God blessed her, just naturally look good; favoring fine proportions and well-defined figure, especially on the bosom and derriere areas. (hey, I am a Hispanic guy after all) ~ I like a lady who dresses well, looks feminine and sexy. Preferable long and well maintained hair, however shorthair is nice too, depending on the style and the color is not important. Ethnicity is not a factor; however, I consider appearance as crucial. Over the years, noticed my inclination for Hispanic and Caucasian girls. On the intellectual: Prefer a lady who is smart and well spoken. Education is important, but I believe people don’t have to go to school to learn common sense and being smart about life. Non-religious or being consumed by demanding religious activities.Lets speculate if I go to a first date, I will: Absolutely avoid sex. Don't get me wrong, I will be thinking about it, but I promise, I will not make any advances for sex. Why? The reason is obvious, I want you to relax and be yourself. I want to get to explore your mind. I experience a lot more pleasure by satisfying my curiosity. Of course, if everything connects, well who knows. If we have the opportunity to meet again, then is a good sign I have to confess I am dying for a different situation. Will like an adventure! I don't go out often, but when I do I like to go to Changos Havana Club at Leon Springs either Friday or Saturday. This is a great place for live music, if we don't see each other there at least you will enjoy the place. Google it if you don't know where it is. needs to enjoy physical fitness, be physical fit or if God blessed her, just naturally look good; favoring fine proportions and well-defined figure, especially on the bosom and derriere areas. (hey, I am a Hispanic guy after all) ~ I like a lady who dresses well, looks feminine and sexy. Preferable long and well maintained hair, however shorthair is nice too, depending on the style and the color is not important. Ethnicity is not a factor; however, I consider appearance as crucial. Over the years, noticed my inclination for Hispanic and Caucasian girls. On the intellectual: Prefer a lady who is smart and well spoken. Education is important, but I believe people don’t have to go to school to learn common sense and being smart about life. Non-religious or being consumed by demanding religious activities. Socially: She needs to enjoy going out and have fun on the weekends; not necessarily at bars/clubs, but activities like: going downtown, dinner, movies, bowling, pool, etc…. Have a few drinks and let the hair down. In addition, my ideal lady should like to dance all kinds of music, i.e. salsa, club music, or even country. And, open-minded, confident and not being shy about PDA. Enjoy going to sport, artistic events. I like her to be a little in the wild side, being able to enjoy herself and not being restricted by inhibitions (but not out of control); I believe, it is part of having fun. She has to have friends to hang out with away from me; sounds estrange, but I think it creates value to the relationship having your own friends and activities. Relationship: She must be a good listener and can carry out well on all topics of conversations without being disrespectful, especially during disagreements. She needs to be passionate, love and caring, demonstrating desire to be together and enjoy each other’s company. Curious and being open on spicing the relationship. She needs to be adventurous and experimental, who likes to experience new things. I like her to be a little aggressive without being preposterous.
