Chitownbornandraised THE INKD UP 1's blog: "1st impressions"

Making a good first impression...
It takes 5 seconds to make, and 5 years to change..
first impressions are EVERYTHING..!
Either you make a good impression or
your ex'd out even before you start.. hahaha

What is a "first impression"?
It's the first thoughts a person has toward you after seeing,
listening, talking, meeting you.
Basically you have five seconds the first time someone see's you or
the first few minutes of a conversation to make a lasting impression...
No matter how fine, hot, sexy, good looking, intelligent you are..
You can f*ck this up.. Everyone has..  Sh*t I know I have...
more then once. hahaa

So, here's some tips on how to leave a lasting impression on someone you just met.

Respect is to women what looks are to men.
A woman dating a man she doesn't respect is like a man dating a fugly woman.
(fugly = f*ckin ugly..hahaha)

- #1 - remember, that NO one is better then anyone else..!
Why do I say that..??
Because the biggest problem most people have with first impressions are
when they see or meet a good looking person they are intimidated by their looks.
They act more passive, nervous, and get a little tongue-tied, not knowing what to say
or how to act...
Which means, you will be forgotten.

It's all about being confident..
Confidence is everyone's number one necessity in the dating game..!
Who wants someone that is not confident about themself..???
I'm not saying act cocky, arrogant or pushy....
Arrogant people act that way, because they THINK they are the sh*t...
When really they have some flaws that they are covering up, by acting
overly confident...
Self-confidence comes from within...Stop comparing yourself to someone else..
We are all different. We don't all look or act the same...
You gotta find our own comfort-zone..

If someone is a confident person, you can see it..
you can tell by the way someone carries themself, thru their eyes,
their style, their walk, and the way they talk.
They have a certain aura about them, that other people are intrigued by...

Ladies have it easier when it comes to this.. Why..?
because 9 times out of 10, it's the fellas that have to approach the females..
So, the females just stand or sit there and look pretty, why the fellas
have to do all the work. hahaha
(To the females that approach guys, MUCH PROPS..!!! )

Fellas.. Try this.. Next time you out with your friend's socializing...
And you see a hottie you wanna approach..
Imagine that your naked with a 10' c*ck, and every female in the room
and checkin you out.. Watchin your every move...hahahaa
Then just go up to them and start talkin..
It will take the initial pressure off of you...
(But don't walk up with a hard-on, and bump them with it. hahaha)

Bottom line is you just have to find that inner confidence/strength
and your good to go..!

- #2 - gotta have verbal-rap-ability..!
Yup..  that's a word..  well, I think my pops made it up...hahaa
He always told me growing up...
It doesn't matter how good you look, how much money you have,
how nice your clothes are.. If you don't have verbal-rap-ability,
you don't got SH*T.. haha

Verbal-rap-ability..  is the gift of gab..
Someone who can sell a blind man, and new pair of glasses..
That's what I'm talkin about. haha
Includes having personable skills, and being able to hold a
conversation with people you meet, even if it's for the first time.

Now I know everyone knows how to start a conversation with a stranger...?
RIGHT..???  Wrong...
You'd be surprised how many people don't know what to say...
When a simple, "Hi, how you doin today.?"
Is all it takes...

Like I mentioned before...
Most of the time, a female knows within the first 5 - 10 seconds
of meeting a guy, what she wants with him initially....
Is he dating material, bootycall material, your next baby daddy ...haha,
or just someone that you said, "hi" to, being polite,
or did he fall into the "friend's zone".. Guys hate that zone.. hahahahaa

Just have a plan when you approach someone...
Say your at the market/grocery store (Publix for my Miami peeps.. heehee),
and you see a good lookin guy/girl in the meat section...
Go up to them and say.. "How do you like your meat..?"
Oooh baby I like it raw
Yeah baby I like it rawww... (ODB.. OL' Dirty Bastard.. hahaha)
JOKING.. hahahahaha

Nah.. Just go up to them and say..
"Ooo..  so, you cook..?  What you makin...???"
It's that simple...
Not saying that will get you invited over to dinner,
and they will be dessert.. HOLLA..haha
but it will get a conversation started..

Or, if your at a bar/club...
Just go say, "Hi, what's that your drinkin"...
Anyone can say that....

It's all about gettin that initial confidence to approach that person..
Sh*t, just do it..  As long as you open your mouth and say something,
you're doing what alot of people don't have the balls to do..
Think about it...
What's the worst thing that can happen..?
They won't say anything back, or they act like they didn't even hear you.
And that's when you just curse them out. hahahahaha

BUT, something is more important than the words you use.!
Body language (aka non-verbal signals)....
Eyes, the way someone walks, the way they stand..
They all give off non-verbal messages, aka FLIRTING..!

You know, everyone has played the flirting game....
It's to see if that person that you caught eye-contact with, is interested...
So, you flirt... That way you can tell, if it's cool to go over and talk
to them, or you'll get that, "What the f*ck are you looking at", look. haha

So, here's some ways to flirt or signs that someone is flirting with you...
because we all know, some people don't get hints or signals very well. haha

- You glance at someone or someone keeps glancing over at you...
So, you walk into a place, and you spot someone that you think is hot, sexy,
your type... So, your checkin them out, seeing how that carry themself...
Or maybe it's the other way around..  You catch someone checkin you out...
Their eyes are aimed at you every time you look their way..
Or you busted someone staring at you...
And they flash you a smile... (HOLLA..haha)
Or if you both catch each other glancing, then it's time to make a move...
Maybe the other person is too shy to come over and they need a little
motivation. 
So, don't just stand there, bust the move..
*sing* If you want it baby you've got it,
If you want it baby you've got it.. Just bust a move"
hahaha..  remember that song.. Young MC - Bust A Move.. 
(old school..haha)

First impressions are a hit or miss thing..
Two strangers, analyzing every little thing,
to test their compatibility, and intersts.
You gotta relax and handle this high stress situation.
Do your best to project an aura of confidence and sense of humor...
Be real, and be urself... And you'll be fine...
And if they still don't like you, Forget EM..
that's one less person you have to deal with in your life. hahahaha