Lone Star State of Mind's blog: "Step Up To...."

I've read this story in Marcus Meleton's book called"Nice Guys don't get laid" & I quote...Being a nice guy doesn't mean the guy is weak...he's just weak around women.A very strange situation happens with a woman who's been in a bad relationship with a jerk.At times they figure that all men must pay.Being as an easy target.it's the nice guy that does the paying.His dates gets cancelled.his intentions & conservations are misinterpeted because of her bad past experiences.His only purposes seems to be paying for all the dates,flowers,& gifts that should've been bought by the jerk in the past.Such conditions like this considered as a payment of a debt,rarely a compliment.

We have to adjust & balance the quality of music we listen to.Constant negative input leads to negative living;Support positive music. -Brother J- (X Clan-mil cipher)

I wonder what happened to the art of romance where you just wanted to go to a nice restaraunt,out to the movies,or take a nice stroll at the park & other things?It seems like these days all they want is drama & want someone who will mistreat them & cheat on them.Sometimes I can't understand why the good-looking girls get with these guys that will hit them & that will cheat on them?I know guys that have good girlfriends of wives & they go with 5 or 10 different women on the side?I be like;why the hell don't they give them to me because I know how to treat them right.I just don't know what happened to romance these days because everybody is out for self & just pulling the wool over your eyes.My true love is out there somewhere & im not going to give up hope.

Sometimes I wonder: Why do the men who treats their woman like dirt gets the best women? Why do some women latch on to these jerks that don't mean them any good? Why are all the good women are taken & stuck with these hoodrats? Why is it that the good women are hooking up with the bad men & the good men are hooking up with the bad women? Why is it that we always want what we can't have? Why is it that the person that we want to be with doesn't want to be with us & the one that we don't want to be with wants to be with us? WHY???

I've seen this with my own eyes everyday where I see people that's 20 years younger than me have somebody & happily married while I've been in the dating scene for 20+ years & Im like a disease just because I treat women with respect & kindness.They think that the nice guys aren't good enough for them because they want these jerks that will mistreat them & slap them around & who needs that kind of drama in their life.What prompt me to write this because my brother's friend has a nice woman & is getting married in June & im 18 years older than him but I wish him the best of luck.I sure would like for my day to come so I can be just as happy as they are.

In the past relationships that we've been in our own hometown;They had never gave us the time of day or treat us with respect.Once they get tired of us,they throw us away like yesterdays news & find someone else new.As we search for love,we find someone that has a warming heart & that's for real but sad to say is that the person is on the net & that person lives too far away.Why does it have to be this way for people whose trying to find true love?We wished that they were living next door to us & it wouldn't be a big problem.

As I was listening to the single by the S.O.S Band called"No one's gonna love you"made a lot of sense because the person that you showed all of your love to them treats you like dirt & cheats on you for another person thinking that this person is going to be good to them.They always think that the grass is greener on the other side thinking that they will treat them better than their mate.What they fail to realize is that they're going to come up with thorns,thistles,& weeds.They soon realize that the person that they dumped you for isn't what they turned out to be because you're the only one that you truly loved them.

I'VE BEEN IN MANY RELATIONSHIPS WHERE I WAS SO GOOD TO WOMEN ALL THE TIME & I WAS MISTREATED BY THEM TERRIBLY & THE REASON WHY I FOUND OUT IS THAT IN THEIR PAST RELATIONSHIPS,THEY WERE MISTREATED BY THEIR BOYFRIENDS THAT THEY USED TO GO WITH,SO THEY DECIEDED TO TAKE IT OUT ON THE NICE GUYS WHO DI NONE OF THESE THINGS TO THEM.WHAT IM SAYING IS THAT THE BADGUYS OUT THERE IS MAKING IT BAD FOR THE GOOD MEN OUT THERE THAT'S TRYING TO DO THE RIGHT THING.I SAY THIS SITUATION IS VICE-VERSA BECAUSE BAD WOMEN ARE MAKING IT BAD FOR THE GOOD WOMEN ALSO BECAUSE I'VE RAN INTO SOME OF THEM IN THE PAST & LET'S BE AWARE ON WHO WE MEET UP WITH ONE DAY BECAUSE THE GRASS IS NOT ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE.

I've watched a lot of Maury shows where fathers refused to claim their kids because they don't want to take care of their responsiblities.I can't understand why they want to do that because children are a gift from God & they should not be mistreated.I would be glad to be a father to any of those kids because I've went through a tragic situation 15 years ago where my ex-girlfriend lied to me about the baby saying that it was mine & it wasn't.It happens in situations like that because she feels that the nice guy is a good catch while the jerk wont do anything for her.We need to stop playing around & be serious around our kids because they need love & attention.