161087's blog: "Modern Day Romance"

Ahhh....so beautiful, and so much like the Rose. The Rose, so beautiful on the vine. The friend, so beautiful online. Once picked, they will need attention and lots of care. For these needs, they look to you to be there. Oh, but if you fail to care for your rose, it shall wither and disappear. Gone shall be the beauty of rose, it rich color oh so lush. Gone too shall be the beauty of the friend, and so shall the crush! So to all my beautiful Roses, I adore you all. And while I may not be here to care for you as much as I would like to...you are always in my thoughts and my heart. Have a wonderful time, and keep this thought in mind. xoxoxox

Isn't it funny, how a smile can have some much effect. We look at them all day, some up close, some from afar, some even indirect. Isn't it funny how some go this way and that. Some just go any old way, and then there is the one that just steals your heart away. She has the eyes and the smile of an angel, well as close to one as I will ever get. I see those eyes in my thoughts that smile all around me...why, why can't I just forget. You imagine just hearing her voice on the phone, and when you do you can just listen to it for hours. You long to hear her next words, as she tells you about herself, her life, even the nearby singing birds. How can I miss someone I have never met? Picture her dancing, smiling and wishing she was near. Missing her voice I so long to hear. Perhaps a nights rest will may these feeling subside....though I doubt it, because her smile it what dreams are made of. Is this a phase, or could it be love! I don’t know, but I like it...allot. So for now I will hold her smile in my dreams, her eyes in my mind, and wait for her call, her text, any old sign. I hope she shall never know the how much I miss her unknown face, but I am sure if she reads this blog...that will not be the case! So 'til we meet...keep on smiling!

What every kiss means (repost) date: 2007-04-02 06:02:47 Kiss on the stomach; I'm ready. -Kiss on the Forehead; I hope we're together forever. -Kiss on the Head; Your my everything. -Kiss on the Cheek; I like you. -Kiss on the Hand; I adore you. -Kiss on the Neck; We belong together. -Kiss on the Shoulder; I want you. -Kiss on the Lips; I love you. ____________________________________________________ What the gesture means... -Holding Hands; We definitely like each other. -Slap on the Butt; That's mine. -Holding on tight; I don't want to let go. -Looking into each other's Eyes; I just plain like you. -Playing with Hair; Tell me you love me. -Arms around the Waist; I like you too much to let go. -Laughing while Kissing; I am completely comfortable with you. ____________________________________________________ Advice; Don't ask for a kiss, take one. If you were thinking about someone while reading this, you're definitely in Love.

Suduction style

Your Seduction Style: The Charmer

You're a master at intimate conversation and verbal enticement. You seduce with words, by getting people to open up to you. By establishing this deep connection quickly, people feel under your power. And then you've got them exactly where you want them!

My Soul

What Your Soul Really Looks Like

You are a wanderer. You constantly long for a new adventure, challenge, or eve a completely different life. You are a grounded person, but you also leave room for imagination and dreams. You feet may be on the ground, but you're head is in the clouds. You see yourself with pretty objective eyes. How you view yourself is almost exactly how other people view you. Your near future is all about change, but in very small steps. The end of the journey looks far, but it's much closer than you realize. For you, love is all about caring and comfort. You couldn't fall in love with someone you didn't trust.

Love Element

Your Love Element Is Metal

In love, you inspire and respect your partner. For you, love is all about fusing together for one incredible life experience. You attract others with wit and a bit of flash. Your flirting style is defined by making others want and value you. Greatness and optimism are the cornerstones of your love life. You may let go too easily, but you never get weighed down by your past. You connect best with: Earth Avoid: Fire You and another Metal element: will control and smother each other

Personality

Your Personality Is

Idealist (NF) You are a passionate, caring, and unique person. You are good at expressing yourself and sharing your ideals. You are the most compassionate of all types and connect with others easily. Your heart tends to rule you. You can't make decisions without considering feelings. You seek out other empathetic people to befriend. Truth and authenticity matters in your friendships. In love, you give everything you have to relationships. You fall in love easily. At work, you crave personal expression and meaning in your career. With others, you communicate well. You can spend all night talking with someone. As far as your looks go, you've likely taken the time to develop your own personal style. On weekends, you like to be with others. Charity work is also a favorite pastime of yours.

Seduction Style

Your Seduction Style: Sweet Talker

Your seduction technique can be summed up with "charm" You know that if you have the chance to talk to someone... Well, you won't be talking for long! ;-) You're great at telling potential lovers what they want to hear. Partially, because you're a great reflective listener and good at complementing. The other part of your formula? Focusing your conversation completely on the other person. The Three Question Personality Test Driver You Passed Your Driver's Test Congratulations, you got 7/10 correct. You're a good driver - at least, when you want to be. Are You a Good Driver? Kissing technique Your Kissing Technique Is: Perfect Your kissing technique is amazing - and you know it. You have the confidence to make the first move. And you always seem to know what kissing style is going to work best. Sometimes you're passionate, sometimes you're a tease. And you're always amazing! Are You a Good Kisser?

Romance and Relationships Ok....here's the deal...I am told that, upon looking at my page, more importantly, my "Friends List" and comments...that I appear to be a "Player"..... Many people are confused as to what a player actually is, and how a real player should conduct him/her self. I do NOT believe that there are two different groups of people in the dating game, the players and the haters. I believe there are three groups: The players, the watchers, and the confused. The players are those who are actively participating in the dating game. Some may be seasoned players and some many be new to the game, but EVERYONE who is dating people on any sort of level is a player (besides people involved in long term relationships). The watchers are those who do not participate in the dating game, some may try once in a while while others would never even think about it. These watchers are scared to become players because of a wide range of reasons, the most common being: shyness, fear of rejection, low self esteem, and lack of confidence. If you fit into the watchers group then your in luck, I'm currently in the process of writing an article that will help you boost your confidence and get over your fears, it should be finished and featured on the website in less than a week. Now on to the last group, the confused. These are those who would commonly be referred to as the "haters". These confused folks will sit around feeling sorry for themselves and throw the blame on other people while their problem actually lies in their own inability to understand how the dating game works, and what the overall purpose of the game is. Yes, I will admit that there are a few "bad apples" out there, and that some players have only bad intentions. However, if you look at us players as a whole, we are simply searching for the person that is right for us, and that my friends is the purpose of the dating game. The process that we must go through in order to find Mrs/Mr right is called trial and error, and this is where things tend to get a bit ugly. We must try different people to find out who we enjoy the most and who we are compatible with. If you realize that the current person you are dating is not "the one", then you have the right to get rid of them whether they like it or not, because this is the way that the game of love works. Look at it this way, if you try a shirt on in a department store and it does not fit, you have the right to put it back, and this works the same way because we are, in essence, shopping for our lifetime partner. One of the major issues players are faced with is when women complain about us not wanting anything to do with them after having sex. Our acting in this fashion could be for any of a wide range of reasons, but all point to the simple fact... she is not "the one". It could be that she was bad in bed, too easy to get into bed, or ANY other reason. It does not matter what it was because now that it has been imprinted on your mind, she could never be "the one", and it is not your fault. You don't have the power to erase from your memory this bad experience that you subconsciously relate her to, and she needs to understand that fact and quit acting so selfishly. Yes I said SELFISH. Think about it, just because she believes that you are her "one and only" means that you should stay with her when you know for a fact that she is not the one for you? She must be out of her mind! Tell her "This works both ways or it does not work at all, honey". However, I can see why many men are wrong and women have the right to be angry. It's the lying, and it has to stop. If you tell a woman that you want to be with her or that you love her just to get in her pants then your not a player, your a liar. Real players never lie because we don't have to, there are many ways to get around saying something that you don't mean by changing the subject or giving a well-directed compliment, which will get you exactly what you want also. I like to call that the "all natural" approach, because it works... but without the side effects. Player or Pick Up Artist Many people get players confused with pick up artists... while they are two totally different things, allow me to explain : Player - A player is someone with an active dating life that is appealing to just about anyone of the opposite sex. These people always make all of the right moves because they have practiced and perfected their skills by teaching themselves to never make any of the wrong ones. Players learn from various sources, but the majority of what they learn comes from the actual experience that they get by using this knowledge in real life situations. Whether a player chooses to use his skills to date multiple women at once or cheat on his partner is his own choice... there are always "bad apples". The fact that he is labeled as a player simply means that he has the ability to pick up just about any women, it does not necessarily mean that this is what he does. A real player has a sense of honer and morals, meaning that he would rather use actual SKILL to pick up women than trickery and shady tactics... why pretend when you are the real deal? Players have genuine confidence. Pick Up Artist - Similar to con artist, but instead of stealing money... they are stealing dates. The pick up artist is the type of guy that will always fall for the next "get rich quick" scam, as he is always looking for the fast and easy way to solving his problems. Pick up artists on average know about 50 times more about picking up women than players do, but how much out of this information that they know is actually useful... is questionable. In turn, pick up artists have about 50 times less experience at picking up women than players do, simply because they spend too much of their time learning by reading and not enough time learning "hands on". Just like players, pick up artists are much better than the average man at picking up women, this is because the average man has neither the knowledge OR the experience, while a pick up artist has immense knowledge... but again, this knowledge is still questionable because it is rarely used. Pick up artists typically make up for this lack in skill with what you can call "cheats" in which they will lie, trick, degrade, make fun of or even attempt to hypnotize women into liking them. Pick up artists have no sense of honer or morals, as they only seem to thrive when they succeed at making a woman feel bad enough about herself so much that they bring her down to their low level, making her think "Hey maybe I'm not too good for this nerd after all". Pick up artists have false confidence. ....I may have been a player from time to time (participating in the dating world, of course) but I am not here on My Space to be. I am actually here, and have so many female friends, because I want to learn about woman, there likes, dislikes, and my own faults in thinking and behavior. I, like my profile explains, am trying to becomae a better man. I want to be my special ladies everything! I want something to distinguish me from the other billion swinging d**ks out there...and I am tired of having every realtionship end.....and usually in heartbreak

Don't assume that guys won't care where you are, because we do. ____________________________________________________ IT MAKES US FEEL SO SECURE TO KNOW THAT OUR GIRLFRIEND ISNT OFF FLIRTING WITH GUYS WE'VE NEVER HEARD OF!! ____________________________________________________ Also, don't talk about your ex-boyfriends. We never have, nor ever will respect or like them, nor do we want to hear about them. When you do, you're asking your boyfriend to be jealous. You're asking your boyfriend to lose trust. ____________________________________________________ We don't care if you talk to other guys. We don't care if you're friends with other guys. But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off. It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there. ____________________________________________________ Also, when we tell you you're pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/ cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it. Don't tell us we're wrong. We'll stop trying to convince you. The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence. ____________________________________________________ Yeah, you can quote me. ____________________________________________________ Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Smile and say "thank you." LET US PAY FOR YOU! DON'T "FEEL BAD" We enjoy doing it. It's expected. Smile and say - everybody together now - "thank you." ____________________________________________________ Kiss us when no one's watching. If you kiss us when you know nobody's looking we'll be more impressed. ____________________________________________________ You don't have to get dressed up for us. If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have, put on every kind of makeup you own. We like you for WHO you are and not WHAT you are. ____________________________________________________ don't flirt with guys when were not with you. We have eyes everywhere. And when we find out, we're pissed. Not necessarily with the guys you flirted with, more-so with YOU. ____________________________________________________ Don't take everything we say seriously. Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it. Don't get angry easily. ____________________________________________________ Stop using magazines/media as your bible. Don't talk about how hot Tom Cruise, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartny is in front of us. It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that. ____________________________________________________ Whatever happened to the word "handsome"/"beautiful" Why does everything have to be "hot/sexy"? I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with "Hey handsome!" instead of "Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy" or whatever else you can think of. But seriously sometimes looks ISNT everything alot guys who arent exactly "hot" will treat you the way you need to be treated Claiming girls or guys to be "hot" shows immaturity. ____________________________________________________ Girls, I cannot stress this enough: IF YOU AREN'T BEING TREATED RIGHT BY A GUY, DON'T WAIT FOR HIM TO CHANGE. DITCH HIS SORRY, DISCRACE-TO-THE-MALE-POPULATION ASS, AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL TREAT YOU WITH UTTER RESPECT Someone who will honor your morals. Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest. Someone who will stop what theyre doing just to look you in the eyes....and say "i love you" ... ....AND ACTUALLY MEAN IT! Give the nice guys a chance *** A little side note....well not so little, but important; Ladies, there are no excuses! If you find you have been in a patteren of abusive relationships (mental and or physical) then guess what....its your choice! Thats right, you've picked who YOU wanted to be with. Maybe it's time you change up a little bit, there are some of us (nice guys...by nice I mean decent) who are REAL bad boys, and not by beating our ladies or treating them like shit. Sorry if this offends anyone, but losing all of you ladies on my friends list would be worth it if it gives just one pause and spares her a beating or heartbreak. Kepp this in mind..."Nothing changes if nothing changes !!!"

First – Wow…she/he is beautiful. I wonder if they will even notice me. I am going to leave a comment, maybe even a little email message Second – Wow….they wrote me bake…..K, I’m going to read and answer the other emails first (saving the best, and currently most important for last), because, if it’s a positive response, I don’t want to be distracted in my reply. Third – Damn, was I to forward, did I say anything to give them the wrong idea, or show too much of my feelings. Fourth – They want to meet…..wow…ok, how do I do this without sounding too anxious of scare them off by sounding needy or desperate. ….or, alternatively, and very common… How do I ditch the bf / gf long enough to meet this person and see if they are all I think they are! Fifth – “Sorry I couldn’t make it…lets do it another time” (I couldn’t get away, I was scared, Something really did come up) - ON THE OTHER END – Sure honey I understand (“no I don’t, must have a bf / gf and couldn’t get away, or just into playing these stupid f**king games…no there won’t be another time) Sixth – Wow…it’s been over a week and I still haven’t heard from him / her…..oh well, on to someone else on the ‘ol friend list. Seventh – Hummm….maybe I will just leave a comment on thee page, see what happens. Eighth - Cool, a message……K…I’ll read it last so I can respond properly…..The Message: Well, I was really looking forward to meeting you the other night. I was a little hurt, and offended when you stood me up. I also think it was a little rude and uncaring to not even call or answer your phone when I called. Play your games with someone else please!” (What an asshole! ….or perhaps someone who had really looked forward to meeting us and made some really great plans, and got stood up…kinda sucks when you your all excited about something and then your sooooo disappointed) Ninth – What a no understanding asshole…..I’m just going to delete them after I leave a nice little message telling them off…. Tenth - On to business as usual…..what we didn’t realize is….Wow…perhaps someone saw something in us, beyond just the looks, and we blew it! That could have developed into one of those really great loves we hear about, and dream about, all the time. City or State lines might separate us, even Oceans…..but if you can’t get someone off you mind, maybe it’s because they are supposed to be there. So what next….a series of more relationships…perhaps comfortable, even exciting…for a few months anyway. Crazy how things work sometimes and two ships can so easily pass in the night. *** Please note….I do not condone or encourage anyone to be unfaithful or go out on their bf /gf or to just meet anyone from online. But if there is something there / if your in a bad relationship and someone catches your attention above all others, there might just be a reason. Call it Karma, intuition, a sign from above…..I might be a fool for trusting my heart, I must be, it keeps getting itself beat up….but I cant give up. ….Or like this…..am I right or wrong!? Day 1 – Pissed, f**k him/her. That asshole better not call (please call, show you really care), ‘cause they wont like what I have to say. Day 2 – That son of a bitch didn’t even f**king call. Must have gone out and had a real good time. How the hell can they just not care….has it all been a game….false….all this time together just going to throw it away. Day 3 - He / she must have met someone last night, or one of there online friends. Ok, f**k ‘em, two can play at that shit. Go Online) hummm…..ill just post a bulletin…I am bored come talk to me….or, hey everyone, what’s happening tonight? anything good…..or….Single again….hummm…let me think or something good. OMFG……he/she deleted from their friend list…… (Picks up phone and calls the offender!) Day 4 – Ok…..they just don’t give a shit, fine (I really want to call). How dare that son of bitch play me all these months, ok….I am gonna rip into them and tell them how I feel. Naah….screw that, I am not going to give them the satisfaction. (While going on with the days affairs, we formulate what we are going to say when we do call…..and the phone rings, and we anxiously look at the number to see who’s calling….and are disappointed…it wasn’t them….we don’t even feel like answering the call) Day 5 – Ring…Ring….we call….now we have to know….Ring…Ring….”Hi, sorry to bother you, but I was just calling to see (insert excuse we thought up here)…..so how have you been (said pleasantly). Oh, well that’s good (now the anger surfaces) ….”So it’s just that easy huh….you never really cared to begin with did you?!” ** Well that went well…..not….damn it, I exposed myself on that one. Well f**k them, I am going out tonight and doing something…..maybe meet someone *** Day 6 – Ring…Ring…..”Yippee, they are calling me now”…..must know I met someone out / online who seems really nice and interesting….and hot as hell. Now it’s my turn to be cold…..”Hello. Awww, now you miss me….after 6 days. Well no, I don’t think it’s a good idea…I need time / my space and a barrage of other BS we will say so we can hurt them, like we have been hurting. Day 7 – Well that was bust…..geeze, what did they do, post there high school picture. And what a jerk/bitch/idiot. Hell, I am calling my man /lady….they suffered enough, and so have I…besides, nothing better on the horizon right now. Day 8 – Excited all day……going to see them later. Ok, how do I play it….open up and risk being shoot down and hurt, or play it cool and make them put forth a little effort. We’ll just have to see. Day 9 – Wow, it was good, comfortable, to be with him/her again. Now, how to find out what they did, or who they been f**king for the last week. Day 10 – Wow, everything is back to normal. GREAT (not) …..Ok, I won; I got them back….but why. It’s the same ol’ shit that leads to the break up to begin with. Didn’t really want them back, just didn’t want them to be happy without me. Now I’m stuck with them again…..geeeze!

What Is A Friend ? Current mood: chipper Category: Friends Well....I have been inspired to write this, doe to recent events and activities. So, what do I think a friend is..... Well it is defined as: a person you know well and regard with affection and trust; "he was my best friend at the university" ally: an associate who provides assistance; "he's a good ally in fight"; "they were friends of the workers" Friendship is a type of interpersonal relationship that is found among humans and among animals with rich intelligence, such as the higher mammals and some birds. Individuals in a friendship relationship will seek out each other's company and exhibit mutually helping behavior. I guess I feel the last part of this is the most accurate way to reflect how I feel about friendship. I don't understand these idiotic post about "Fake Friend" bulletins, that don't want you to respond to the poster, but to repost the bulletin to prove your a friend. WTF is that ???? So, yes, when I become a friend, I guess I take it literally, and mean to be one! Hope this clears up the confussion.