Lessons That Women MUST Learn About Relationships: (Yeah I Said It!)
1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away if he doesn't want
you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave
him alone.
4. Allow your intuition to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant
to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly
happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you
deserve then heck NO you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't
mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith
make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle... If you settle for less than what you deserve, you
get LESS than what you settled for.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship- -take that as
a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man
like that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get -better." You'll be mad
at -yourself a year later when you realize things are -not much better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and -aren't involved in
a -whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different
women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he
treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before -finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers
you, speak up.
23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested. And that's OK!
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the cop outs: "I'm confused." "I don't know what I
want." "I'm afraid of a serious relationship. "
Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but
don't -wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how
he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom) and how they perceive
him.
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental
abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow
himself -- double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even
if he has more education or a better job...
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more
nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other women, but be aware that men are
attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right
away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words. (You've heard this... realize
it's meaning!)
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that
you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you again. Statistics show
that 80% of men in committed relationships have cheated.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt
you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. Use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of
the #1person in YOUR life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to GIVE UP your lifelong task of trying to make someone
unavailable- available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone
unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs. There's that 20% still lingering in the side
lines.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromis e is a
two -way street.
49. If you don't love yourself...you CAN'T love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships. ..there is nothing
cute about baggage...deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you.. .a
relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. ..look for someone
complimentary. ..not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to
the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can
end it but it takes two to make it work...
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves
you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do
for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you
are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure
him to spend time with you, you can't force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't
either... set a good example.
62. Never let a man know EVERYTHING about you. He will use it against
you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man, unless he's spoiling you too.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go - stand up, be strong and let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
They're the 20% that get dumped on and taken for granted by unwise women.
71. Don't play games. If you want him to be real to you, show him and
you that you can be real FIRST.
72. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment.
One Love!
Lil-Shaq
