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i love being outdoors....i love reading and writing thats why im an english major...and i want to teach...im the type of person who knows what she wants and usually gets it...honesty and trust are qualities i most admire..i wear my heart on my sleeve and i am never afraid to express my emotions...most importantly i can't stand guys who think they are god's gift to the world...i also have a bad habit of picking the wrong guys to go out with and im trying to break this habit...so thats why im single right now

For me at least, there are three qualities of character that a man would have to have before I could even think about submitting to him.

The first is that he needs to ‘have himself in hand’. If a man is out of control of himself, whether that be of his temper, his spending, his drinking, or whatever, how could I possibly let him be in control of me?

The second quality, which really goes hand in hand with the first, is his integrity. My own integrity, both in little things and in the way I structure my life as a whole, is profoundly important to me, and I could not respect a man for whom this was not also true. I think that we all have a responsibility to give back to this world, in large or small ways, and I could not give my submission in a deep and lasting way to a man who did not share this sense of responsibility.

The third quality is the ability to lead from his heart. To me, the essence of true leadership consists of

a) having a vision or goal firmly in mind, and being able to move consistently towards that goal

b) the ability to inspire others to share that vision and help towards its achievement

c) a genuine caring and respect for the people one leads. In my experience, people will not follow a dictator very long or very sincerely. They won't follow him at all unless forced to out of fear. However, someone who leads from his (or her) heart, with a genuine commitment to the well-being of those being led, inspires a great deal of loyalty and devotion.