Greetings and salutations,

How my I break your heart today? lol

Let's see… For fun I read, write, hang out with friends, go drinking, check out movies play video games, read and collect comic books, I used to play Basketball, but I haven't in years. I’m a musician, writer, a poet, an aspiring TV producer among other things.

Checking out nature is always fun, going to museums checking out the NYC is fun too, um going to the beach, have sex, ummmm and just doing creative stuff I just enjoy doing everything and anything. ? I love learning and I love living. I've got tons of interests so just ask.

Well I'm single cause I can't seem to find the woman that I want. Seems like every time I get in a relationship they aren't who they put themselves out to be.

I don't do jealousy; I'm not a jealous person. I like intelligence. I love creativity. People with passion really flip my switches. I like people who are open minded and extremely sexual, always makes for good conversation. I like women who enjoy cuddling.

I want to find someone who wants to be with me not needs to be with me. I want to find someone who is independent and can go and do their thing and come to me when they want to see me. I'm romantic, but not smothering.

about me: I'm 39 years soon to be 40 old 6ft 1in 260lbs. my birthday is 4/27/74. blue eyes, brown hair. I grow it long sometimes and I shave it sometimes depending on my mood. I'm sarcastic, intelligent, modest, humble and an ego maniac all at the same time.

I'm sweet, caring and thoughtful, but don't put any challenges before me ‘cause you'll hate me in the end. Not for the fact of me being mean per se just the fact of me trying to show people that life's not about bragging, it’s about what you do.

I find that women with glasses, tats, a well as brunettes and redheads are super aesthetically pleasing.

I like hanging out with people, I am sweet and compassionate, I love meeting new people. I hate girls who play games. I'm not in eighth grade and if you are talking to me you shouldn't be either.

I like being single but if the right woman comes along *hint hint* I might be persuaded to get into a relationship again.
When I'm in a relationship I'm 100% loyal.
I'm honest to a fault.
I'm adopted.
I don't believe in marriage; I tend to think it’s an antiquated concept made up in about the past to basically make women into property. And I don't believe in owning anyone. I only believe in loving someone.
I don't deal with possessiveness. It's not for me and it kind of pisses me off. I figure hey if I fall in love with ya and you’re cool we'll stay together til we die if it gets to that point. Not to mention that marriage these days just seems to have lost all meaning since it’s so disposable and who wants or needs that?
Not me.
Kids?
Cool that's fine I'll have kids and what not.
I don't plan on it but I don't rule it out… with the right person anything is possible. I'm of the opinion of if you want to be with me and we click I'll be with you, but we have to get to that point.

I've never been married; I have no kids that I know of.
And as far as cut off I usually don't date anyone under the age of 25, but I would make an exception if I met someone a little younger who blew me away. But they would have to especially interesting.
Thing is and this is the truth; in life you go through stages. You grow up and become someone who’s different from what you were when you were just a zygote. And throughout these stages you discover certain things about you. It’s a little like the stages of development in psychology.

Here’s how I see it:

1. You’re born and so from ages 0-11 you’re learning and obtaining the very basics of your personality. You’re learning how to walk, talk, spell, add, multiply, become social and discern reality from fantasy; as well as a whole host of other things.

2. Usually 12-20 to say 21 you've just figured out how to be social and form thoughts in a more adult or advanced form, then all of a sudden… POW!!!! Nature and hormones and your body throw you such a curve ball you don’t know what to do. Some people get acne, some people get hairy, some people just go through a really awkward stage, and some people nothing happens to them. But just the same you’re starting to notice the opposite sex and you’re entering your teens, then high school.
Now it’s time to try to put those social skills to work so what happens you form cliques with everyone because you’re trying to establish your identity and just trying to figure out life, but with your new hormones kicking in it kind of makes things tough to see, they cloud everything.

3. 18-25 Then after all that high school crap and your head is still spinning from trying to figure out who you are now we’re going to give a doozy of a decision to make… what do you want to do with the rest of your life? Holy crap, are you kidding me? What I want to do for the rest of my life? Ummmm I don’t even really know who I am. I just got out of the cliquey fake world of high school and now you want me to choose what I want to be for the rest of my life. Well after maybe changing majors about 10 times you've finally decided to become a business major. You get your BA or BS or MA or MBA or whatever you’re going to get and guess what? You hate it and you can’t believe you went into this field so you try to figure out what you really want to do so you’re 25 and you go back to get a degree in art history because that was your first major and you finally get your shit together and become a TA by the time your 30.

4. 25-35 So maybe between the time from 18-25 you decide to get married and now you find out that the person you married and the career you went to school for aren't what you wanted. You find that the person you’re married to even though you've grown together, you've grown apart. Why? Because they lied to you? Because they’re such a terrible person and they pawned themselves off to be someone else? No. It’s simple you both grew up together, but you both finally figured out that you’re both WHO you are and those to people don’t get along because your rock and roll and he’s hip hop. And you know the marriage isn't going to work and that it’s not healthy, but guess what you have 2 kids now. And you know what you’re going to do? 1 of 2 scenarios.

1. You’re going to stay together and deprive the kids of seeing what an actual loving relationship is supposed to look like. And just living bitter, cheating, hating and miserable. Becoming an alcoholic and beating the spouse and kids

2. or you’ll get a divorce and never see your kids or worse when you are divorced you’ll use your kids as a tool to get back at your spouse. Just lovely.
But now here at the age of 25 or 35 no matter what it might be you know who you are. You grown and found out what you want out of life what you truly like and/or don’t.

5. 36-100 Now that you know who you are and what you want and what not you do finally either figure you’re going to be happy or you’re going to miserable a live your life a fatalist or an optimist.
No don’t get me wrong there’s always exceptions to the rule, but I've seen this happen probably 85 to 90 percent of the time; and guess what that’s not what I want. People aren't possessions and they aren’t toys to be played with. Granted after 18 you’re considered an adult, but at the same time how much have you lived in those 18 years? I guess what I’m trying to say is you liked playing with toys when you were 5 but you stopped playing with toys when you like 11 or 12 ‘cause you grew out of it. I mean when you were 16 you used to like pink hot pants and big hair and now you don’t. Things change, People change. And most of all people’s opinions and likes and dislikes change. It happens.
Well any how I’m not trying to be a fatalist here. I consider myself an optimist and a realist. I’m the type of person who looks at a situation after either it being bad or me fucking up majorly; I try to make my apologies if I can, dust myself off and say did I learn anything from this experience. I take what I learned and I apply it to my life in a somewhat positive form. But this is all part of who I am and my philosophy of life.
Life is just too short for bullshit. Like good old Sister Denise used to say in 8th grade English. “I want you to give me the meat of the sentence.†Well I guess that’s kind of like me except I want the meat that’s life. So if you’re still interested add me or write me.

I love music; I support local bands, if they are worth supporting.