I just read report that stated that there is a 50% divorce rate in America. 65% of all 2nd time marriages fail. Low and behold 75% of all 3rd time mariages fail.
Apparently people don't learn from thier mistakes. And no, I don't mean getting remarried is the mistake. It's not learning from the mistakes you made in the previous marriage(s)that is the mistake. And yes, I do believe that marriages fail due to both parties making mistakes. With the exception of abusive ones, of course.
For example, my father cheated on my mom. He was unfaithful to his vows. That was his part in the marriage failing. But I also saw how he was treated by my mother when they were married. Does that excuse his actions. Not at all. It does however explain them. She treated him terribly. He dealt with it by cheating on her. 2 wrongs don't make a right.
So you see they both had a hand in the marriage failing. What I see happening is that people don't learn from the mistakes they made the first time or second time around. Then they bring those mistakes into the new marriage and make them all over again. Even making it worse by making new mistakes that they then carry on to the next marriage after that one. And so on and so on. They get so involved in pointing out the other persons mistakes that they fail or refuse to accept responsibility for thier part in the marriage falling apart. Then they do it all over again.
Lack of personal responsibilty goes along way in a marriage. It can cause irrepriable damage. iI you want the marriage to work, start with yourself. And if that doesn't work, atleast learn from those mistakes so you dont carry them on to the next go round.
just my .02 worth
