Hi Readers
Okay, here goes. First, what's been working for
me. The CF attitude is definitely paying off.
Bottom line, IT WORKS. Another tip I've found to
work for me is to generally play up to a woman's
insecurities. DON'T make fun of them, be
respectful, but just let them be aware of the
fact, tactfully, that you KNOW that they arn't
perfect, and given a different set of
circumstances, if you so chose, you could be with
someone else. The trick I have found that works
for me is to ALWAYS KEEP THEM GUESSING. Does he
like me, or doesn't he? Where do I stand? How can
I win him over? Don't give them your undieing
devotion to them right off the bat or they'll KNOW
that you're a wussy!!!
Okay, so here's my question. Could you tell me
how to ask a girl out without "losing your
power...?" It seems to me like once you have "put
yourself out there", and asked her the question
"Will you go out with me?" you have made yourself
seem somewhat weak and wussy-like. Is there a way
to do it and still make it seem like you are in
control?
Also, where do you think is a good place to ask
a girl out on a first date? I don't generally like
the movies since you don't get to talk much.
It's always interesting to me to get a view of
how another person sees the world...
"playing up a"
woman's insecurities" in a tactful, Cocky & Funny
way, is really working for me.
Now, this might sound a little bit "cruel and
unusual" to others reading. and
I'd like to explain the psychology behind it, and
tell you why I think it works so well.
There are a few keys that one needs to remember
when interacting with an attractive woman you've
just met...
1) Most guys pursue her, give her compliments, try
to get her approval by giving her things and
taking her out.
2) Most men don't say things that might "rock the
boat". In other words, most men won't make a
comment early on that might offend or upset her.
3) Most men give away all of their power to
attractive women INSTANTLY. I'm talking as soon
as they meet.
4) Women interpret these behaviors as a man not
feeling comfortable enough and secure enough IN
himself to BE himself. In other words, these
"commonly accepted courting behaviors" actually
come across as subtly MANIPULATIVE to women. At a
subconscious level, a woman can INSTANTLY sense a
man who is communicating the message "I don't
think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to
do a bunch of other things for you in the hopes
that you'll give me approval". I know, the truth
sometimes sucks.
So, how does this relate to playing up a
woman's insecurities in a tactful, Cocky & Funny
way?
Making fun of a woman's insecurities in a fun,
teasing way says something much bigger... it says
that you're not looking for approval and that
you're not afraid of her walking away. It's one
of those things that says a lot more than just
what you're saying with words.
"What Attracts Them"?
Well, you might recall that I said that one of
the things that annoys women the MOST is when a
guy is weak and tentative... and he seeks approval
by trying to do whatever he thinks a woman would
want him to do. In other words, by trying NOT to
annoy a woman you'll often annoy her worst of all.
I know. reality is strange like that.
Now, on the OTHER HAND, if you say something
like "Hey, you're kind of short for a cute
girl"... it can have the OPPOSITE effect.
REMEMBER, one of the KEYS to this type of
comment is the HUMOR. Half of the Cocky & Funny
equation is FUNNY.
You're not being MEAN, you're being PLAYFUL.
But, when you comment on something that an
attractive woman might be insecure about in a VERY
FUNNY WAY, it says ALL the right things, all at
once.
It says that you're not afraid of her, it says
that you're funny, it says that you're sassy, it
says that you're going to be a challenge... it
says that you're not seeking her approval, and it
says that you're not a WUSSY.
Now, keep in mind, this is a FUN thing to do.
If she LAUGHS when you say it, you're on the
right track. If she gets "fake mad", you're on
the right track. If she starts crying and telling
you that you're the kind of guy that should be
beaten up, then you need some work...lol.
I tease women all the time with this kind of
thing, and they love it.
ASKING WOMEN "OUT"
Earlier I mentioned that have
given me some insight into the way some men THINK.
Let's talk about how to ask a woman out...?".
1) It tells me that men believe that the're the
one who has to do the asking
2) It tells me that men believe that they need to
ask a woman "out on a date" when you DO "ask her"
3) It tells me that men believe that the're taking
a big risk when you do (your words were "putting
yourself out there")
4) It tells me that men ALREADY think that she has
POWER OVER YOU... before you've even met her and
"asked her out"
Whoa. Heavy, man.
What if I said that the answer was to never ask
another woman out again?
What if I said that for the next year men need
to only tell women what you're going to do, and
let them know that if they'd like to join you they
may, but if they choose not to, it's their
loss...?
What if I said that you're really only
"risking" something when you CARE what she thinks
of you... and that once you get over caring what a
woman thinks of you, your success will sky-rocket?
I realize that these might be "far-out" ideas,
but if you round up 100 guys who are VERY
successful with women, you'll find that MOST of
them operate with these beliefs.
I can't do the "psychological brain surgery"
that men seem to need in one tip... but let me
give you a new way to think about this...
Beautiful women aren't interested in being with
men who are weak. They're not interested in men
who have low self esteem. They're not interested
in men who give away their power. They're not
interested in men who don't GET what they want in
life.
In other words, beautiful women aren't
attracted to WUSSIES. Dont sock up to this,
"She has the power". I want her
to be with me, so I need to "ask her out" in order
to get her to spend time with me... if she rejects
me, I will lose something".
You're basically suggesting that you lack
something and she has it... and that you NEED what
she has so badly that you'll do anything for it.
You've handed over your power before the game
has even started.
And guess what kind of effect this is going to
have on a woman you're trying to "ask out"?
Right, she's going to SMELL YOUR INNER WUSSY,
whether it's in-person or over the phone.
She's going to hear it in your voice.
Women are PROS at sensing the Inner Wussy.
And women RESENT men that they can control.
So what's the answer?
Before I say this, let me mention that the REAL
answer here is learning how to become a MAN that
women are NATURALLY attracted to. And there is no
"instant technique" that can make that happen. The
only way is to learn how to transform yourself
into this man that I'm describing. And there's
only place in the world you can learn the DEEPER
elements of this transformation. And that place is
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