Why Women Are So DESPERATE These Days
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***QUESTION***
here is the deal...
I'm 23, 5'7" and a relatively good looking and
successful fashion designer. i don't date to much,
and because of my usually respectful mannerism i
don't get laid too often and usually end up in
that "gay friend" category.
but I've kinda got my eye on a cutie who works at
a trendy clothing store in my hood. it initially
was one of those things where we shared a glace
and did the whole "eye ball sex" thing the first
time i came into the shop. i frequent this store
regularly to help promote and do some p.r. for a
club night my friends are doing, (not to mention
check out the... uh... merchandise?) so i have
actually spoke to her and got her name and even
convinced her to come out to the club a few times
(on my guest list of course).
the thing is I'm not very comfortable about
"macking" girls in clubs and try to avoid it at
all costs, so my question is how do i go from
cheezy promoter guy dropping off flyers and free
passes, to say... getting her to come watch
"videos" at my place or even just a phone # for
that matter?
giving me a way to find out if she is single would
be cool too..."
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I've included your letter for a couple of
reasons. First, because I want other guys to see
that just because you're a young, successful guy
that works in two fields which should naturally
lead you to be a BABE MAGNET, it always takes more
than just a situation... it takes skills and
knowledge as well.
And secondly, I want to answer your question
because I believe that there are many guys out
there who come into contact with lots of women and
would like to know how to capitalize on their good
fortune.
Here's what to do:
The easiest thing in the world to do in your
current situation is to say, "Hey, do you have
email?"
Most people do and if she says yes, just pull
out a piece of paper and have her write it down.
And, WHILE SHE'S WRITING say, "And write your
number down there too." This is one of my favorite
one-two combinations.
Then, the next day, send her an email and tell
her that she should get together with you for a
cup of tea and some stimulating conversation. This
is both easy and charming, and it works like,
well... a charm.
And for heaven's sake man, start getting the
email and digits from the - probably - MILLIONS OF
BABES that you meet in the fashion industry and
while promoting clubs. Heck, if you don't want
them, send them to me.
***SUCCESS STORY***
I'm sure you'll find this interesting Dave.
There's a girl I liked a while back. Her and I
dated for a few weeks, and then she started
backing out. Less communication, avoiding the
"alone time" etc. Well, that confused the hell out
of me because I didn't see it coming, nor did I
know what was going on in her head. I did get
frustrated, but I dealt with it, and moved on. But
before I moved on, I told her very friendly, "I
know you don't want to continue dating, but you
know that we're still friends... " So we had a
nice talk and stuck to friendship. Still wondering
why it broke off between us, I came across your
book. After I read it, I became "enlightened" as
to what happened. Let's just say I read about the
"needy" guy, and cringed. I came on too strong to
her. It's like putting on a lot of cologne... no
matter how good the smell is, too much stinks.
Well, after being "enlightened," I decided to try
a few of your concepts on her. I will honestly
tell you that she's all over me now. (all over).
Anyways, I'm known for never finishing books, but
yours I've read about 3 times now. Waiting for a
new publication..."
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ah, yes. Isn't it wonderful when you realize
how the psychology works?
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave!
I enjoy reading your writing.
I dated a lot and fooled around quite a few, but I
have fallen for this girl, and I made a mistake by
telling her, not once but twice, how much I feel
for and want her before she revealed her feeling
toward me. Consequently she told me later on that
she would like to do casual dating with me. And
recently I found out that she is seeing two or
three other guys simultaneously. GUYS OUT THERE,
REMEMBER THIS. NEVER REPEAT MY MISTAKE!!!!
Having recognized my error and conceded defeat, I
want to cut my loss by telling her this weekend in
a face to face meeting that I don't want to see
her any longer. But I can't forget her and keep
wondering if I should make one more effort to win
her back. I guess I am a regular human being,
suffering from loss of her love.
Should I change my mind, what techniques can I use
to win her back?
Or I should simply walk away from her and forget
everything about her?
Your advice would be greatly appreciated.
Sincerely,
B.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I'm glad that you've realized your
mistake...
Too often, we men find a particularly
interesting woman and then come to the logical
conclusion that we should probably share how we're
feeling about her... with her.
Unfortunately, while we think we're saying, "I
really like you and think you're a special girl",
what she's actually hearing is, "I am a wuss, I
feel like you're too good for me, I'll do whatever
you want, I'm no longer a challenge, and you can
predict how I'm going to act from now until you
decide that you're tired of me..."
I know, sounds harsh. But, this is too often
the reality of the situation.
As far as your situation goes, I would get on
with my life, don't call her anymore and if she
decides to call you sometime, turn the tables
around, start playing hard to get and NEVER ACT
LIKE A WUSS AGAIN PLEASE.
It's a hard job I have, poking fun at the pain
of others... all for their own good.
***INTERESTING EMAIL FROM A WOMAN***
This is a success story. Your success, not mine.
And I need your help. I really doubt that anybody
else can help me. This is the story. I am a woman.
I am absolutely agreed with every word you say
about dating, phone number and email, cocky/funny
attitude, phone calls, and kiss. Everything you
say is right. Beside this talent you have very
unique quality: you can see the persons problem
from few sentences. Now I need you to tell me what
is my problem. I am immigrant from Russia living
in Canada. I am at my latest 20 and I'm quite
attractive and I want to have a boyfriend. I am
not the person who settles for less. . I have no
problem to get a date. I have a problem to get the
second one with the guy I like. I know all mind
games including "I'm so Hard To Get and Busy" and
"Oh I'm so helpless". To meet a guy is not a
problem, but, very few of my dates are cocky &
funny guys. And that is what I like. Now tell me:
what do you cocky-funny guys look for? What makes
you call back second, third and twenty-third time.
I am not asking for an answer like: wash your
hair, offer to split the bill and be adventurous,
I know all this from Cosmo. There is something
bigger then this, something that North American
girls learn at their very yang age and it is so
simple so nobody talks about it. Tell me what is
it that attracts cocky-funny guys. I really need
to know. Thanks.
L.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'm glad you wrote in because you bring up a
point that most men never realize, namely, that
it's not easy for most women to find the kind of
man that they feel ATTRACTED to!
Yes, there are a lot of good looking men in
this world, but women are looking for a lot more
than just looks.
Women are looking for that magical combination
of confidence, humor, an understanding of how
women work, class, etc.
One of the great benefits of mastering the
ideas that I teach is that you can fill a need
that is very real in the world: The need for real,
attractive men.
As for your particular situation, my only idea
is to stop by my place sometime for a personal
consultation. I specialize in beautiful, young
Russian women who are looking for cocky & funny
guys. There is no charge for your initial
consultation...
***QUESTION***
Dave "THE MAN",
I just want to first thank you or rather
compliment you, just like everyone else has done,
on your successful book which has helped me
tremendously. It has led me to become VERY VERY
confident in myself and around other girls. Once
again, thank you Dave. Anyway, on to my question
that literally drives me crazy!!! This girl that
I'm interested in has email but NEVER checks it
because, according to what she says her computer
doesn't work. Go figure. But she did give me her
cell phone number and house phone number. The
problem is that every time I call her we talk for
about 10-15 min. and she says that she'll call me
back later but NEVER does. i mean NEVER!! is this
because she is playing hard to get or does it mean
that i am just wasting my time and she is not
interested and should i just give up on her
completely? how can i become the one who's in
control and have HER chasing ME instead of ME
chasing HER??? How could i get her to start
calling me? If you can answer this question then
it will be one less thing for me to worry about
when dealing with women and I will definitely
consider you "THE MAN". Thanks
-R.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Where in my eBook or newsletters have you EVER
heard me say to talk on the phone for 10-15
minutes? Exactly, nowhere. Why do you think this
is?
Because the more time you spend TALKING at the
very beginning (when getting her email and number,
while on the phone setting up the next meeting,
etc.) the more likely you are to screw it up.
Don't waste time!
Getting her email and digits should take 3-5
minutes or so. Setting up a place to get together
should take about the same.
Here, I'll do another of my wonderful
translations for you:
You call up and say, "Hi, it's Irwin from last
night calling... how are you? What are you doing?
Oh, doing your hair, really? Cool. So, that was
some band last night, huh? Pretty crowded bar,
huh? Oh, sure... you need to go? Well, will you
call me back later? OK, great, talk to you then."
What she hears: "Hi, I'm lame and uncreative
and I am interested in you, but I'm nervous and
don't know how to ask you out so, I think I'll
just talk about some lame, boring, mundane
things... and hope that maybe you'll have pity on
me and offer to meet me sometime."
Are you with me?
You need to call up and say, "Hey, I don't have
long to talk, but I wanted to touch base and say
"Hi". I'm going to be busy today and tomorrow
night, but let's get together Saturday for a cup
of tea and some stimulating conversation..."
Bang, done.
If you really want to use the advanced tactics,
read my book and learn about how to use the
"friendship frame" to disarm her at the end of the
conversation.
Now, no more calling up these poor cute women,
boring them for 15 minutes until they say, "Hey, I
have to go, but I'll call you back later..."
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
I've been reading your emails for quite some time
and recently just bought your e-books. I commend
you on what you are doing for the many hundreds
and possibly thousands of men like me who are
trying to increase our game. I just started a new
job at a hotel on campus. There's this one girl
who find very attractive. My question is is it ok
to date or ask out someone you work with? I've
only worked with her once, but I felt an
attraction to her and although I'm not sure if
she's attracted, there may be the possibility of
it, which means there is something for me to work
with. What are your thoughts? Thanks S.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Don't date your close neighbors, don't date
anyone related to a close friend, and DON'T DIP
YOUR PEN IN THE COMPANY INK. All of these are VERY
likely to wind up being bad, long-term
investments.
Better idea: Tease and use all of your best
cocky & funny ideas on this girl... great target
practice. At some point, one of you will probably
no longer work for the same company and at that
point she will like you so much that you will have
fish in a barrel for the shooting.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
...I found...NLP related seduction stuff about a
year ago and spent some money on seduction courses
related to NLP, however I must say I haven't had
astonishing results with it.
When I ordered your book I was still studying some
NLP based seduction course so I did not read the
book until recently and how mistaken I was! After
reading the book I realized I should have read it
a long time ago because I noticed drastic
improvements in the way I communicate and attract
women now, far more drastic than all the time I've
spent studying NLP related seduction material...
Which leads to my questions to you.
I read...that you had done a lot of NLP training
yourself. I'm 32 yrs old now and at the point
where I need to focus on one route that leads to
my goal of becoming PUA. I know some people would
say take bits of this, and bits of that and find
out what works for you, however I want your
personal opinion on this one. Do you use any NLP
at all when attempting to create attraction in a
woman, is NLP necessary in seduction? What about
things like eliciting values and anchoring them to
you, is this required in creating attraction a
woman? What would you tell a newbie who had to
choice of learning NLP in terms of getting good
with seducing women, would you tell them to bother
with it?
I'm now thinking of completely focusing my energy
on perfecting the 'Cocky and Funny' approach and
not wasting anymore time on things that are not
necessary for me to become good in this game. I
need your advice on this one... Thanks for the
good work, I'm looking forward to you writing
update books to this whole game.
G.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
For those of you that don't know, "NLP" stands
for "Neuro Linguistic Programming". And, there's a
lot of buzz about how this can help you in all
areas of life. From psychological issues - to
earning money - to meeting more women.
Yes, I have spent a lot of time learning about
NLP, and I've tried a lot of NLP ideas when it
comes to meeting women.
The simplest answer I can give you is this:
The best use of NLP is to find guys who are
very successful with women and then use it to
LEARN WHAT THOSE GUYS DO NATURALLY. The mistake I
think that a lot of people make is taking the
parts of NLP that relate to therapy, influence,
and persuasion, and trying to apply those models
to women and dating.
Believe me, I've tried this stuff EXTENSIVELY,
and I've come to the conclusion that there is a
MUCH better way.
My success took off when I started watching
what the really successful guys did when they were
with women, then refining the ideas and looking
for the common elements.
For instance, the "cocky & funny" idea comes
directly from a good friend of mine who is very
good at attracting women. Once I learned it from
him, I began to notice that almost ALL of the guys
I know, who attract a lot of women, use it.
I don't think you have to reinvent the wheel.
Just do what works... and if what you're doing is
working, then keep it up.
And, if you want to learn how to use Cocky &
Funny like a MASTER, then go here, read about it,
and watch the video clips...
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/CockyComedy/?cid=SZZZVH&lid=2&ll=1
***COMMENT***
yo David!
this is the greatest stuff i have ever seen. its
soooooo easy and yet, until it dawns on you, it
seems frustrating. all you nice guys know what I'm
talking about...no sex? girls don't call back?
LISTEN to DAVID!! its the simplest formula in the
world. here it is again for the millionth time...
COCKY+FUNNY=
WOMEN!!!NUMBERS!!!!!ATTRACTION!!!!FUN!!! SEX!!!
forget all that gadget crap, mind "tricks" and
palmistry (don't get me wrong, each CAN be
effective...) it makes absolutely NO DIFFERENCE
what you do, its the cocky, funny way you do it!
be confident! go up to some girls and say sup
girls, ask their names, then look at the hottest
one and say ARE YOU TRYING TO PICK ME UP???!!!!
hahaha and just keep teasing, making the frame
that she wants you, and BE SURE TO TELL HER YOU
KNOW SHE WANTS YOU!!!! trust me on this, when you
see her face light up with a smile, it will be
time, young grasshopper, to become a real LADIES
MAN!!! peace, may the CF be with you...
N.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, you'd make a great walking billboard
for my... well...
The problem is that you sound like a late night
infomercial and I don't think anyone would believe
you...
But seriously, you are right.
It would never cross the minds of most guys to
look at a stunning woman and say, "Are you trying
to pick me up?"
If I'm at a bar talking to a woman, and she
gives me any kind of compliment, hints that she
likes me, tells me that I'm funny, etc., I'll say,
"Look, I know how you women are. First a little
compliment, then you're asking me for my number,
then you want me to come home with you to "check
out your new stereo" or something. I just want you
to know that I'm not that kind of guy, and I won't
fall for it."
Oh, I love it.
***QUESTION***
David,
You are a wise man.
I feel the truth in your words.
I want to implement the techniques that you speak
of, I do, I REALLY do. But it seems that when I
come in contact with women that I think are
attractive, I can't, or more precisely, I don't.
I think I'm afraid of rejection.
If I ask a woman for her number within three
minutes, I just can't see her giving it to me.
And if she did, I wouldn't know when to call her
(I'm thinking of the 2 day rule from "Swingers")
or if I should call her at all and just keep
retreating (a la "Tao of Steve")
Do you subscribe to the theories presented in
these films and do you teach a class?
If yes where do I sign up?
D.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I understand where you're coming from...
I would NEVER have believed that a woman would
give out her number to a complete stranger in 2 or
3 minutes...
Until I watched some guys actually do it.
As soon as I saw it happen, it completely
changed my idea of what is possible. You just need
to get out there and take action. Next time you're
talking to a woman, just say:
"Hey, nice talking to you, but I have to get
back to my friends (or what I was doing, etc.)."
Then, just as you're turning away, say:
"Hey... Do you have email?"
When she says "Yes", just take out a pen and
paper and give it to her, expecting her to write
it down. When she does, say, "Nice meeting you,
I'll chat with you again when I have some more
time..." and walk away.
Once you're comfortable doing that, start
having them write their number down as well. It's
really not that difficult.
As far as how long to wait to call, etc? Just
don't email or call the same day! Email the next
day, and use what you've learned to take things to
the next level.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I haven't had success like this with women in my
life. You sure know your stuff. I've read your
book about 10 times and I'm still reading it. But
I do have one question though. I have a major
downfall when it comes to communication with
women. I do good at approaching them and I usually
say "Hey, how's it goin'?", but I CAN'T FIND
ANYTHING TO TALK ABOUT. That's my downfall. If I
can keep a conversation going that could the best.
But I'm lacking skills in that part, and like you
said, your success all comes down to your skills.
Well Dave, I need a new skill. Can you please help
me. Any feedback will be much appreciated.
~J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You're going to love this answer.
Don't "talk" about anything at all. Tease, make
fun, act cocky & funny, and get the email/digits.
The idea that you have to "talk about
something" will lead you to a curious dry feeling
between your legs...
***QUESTION***
Dear David...
I'm a 37-year-old guy, not bad looking, dress
pretty well, nothing in the way of great
detractors in my habits that I can tell.
Growing up in a liberal town of liberal-minded,
feminist parents, where most conversations were
matter-of-fact and direct, very little teasing
occurred, etc. it's been hard trying to lose my
matter- of-fact approach to talking to women and
gain this bad-boy-ish attitude you talk about in
your book. It is the complete antithesis to much
of who I see myself as. That said, I still want to
give it a try, since being a natural Sensitive Guy
(although not a pushover) hasn't given me the huge
success I'd like.
My problem comes from my age. Most of the women
from 28 up that I meet all want to get married
pretty soon, and seem to assess me as husband
material rather than sexy- man material. My
friends say "Well, why don't you just date younger
women?"
As if it were that easy!
I want to approach tons of women (despite the fear
I feel at each approach if it doesn't already feel
like a natural opportunity to me). I have a strong
sense, though, that a 37-year-old guy approaching
a 23-year-old girl (or anyone under 28, say) would
be looked on with suspicion by the girl,
especially since I'm nobody famous or rich or
whatever. It's like it's already a giant stroke
against me, adding to the already huge on I feel I
have being this naturally considerate, even-
handed, egalitarian sort of guy.
I couldn't find it in your book, but have you
honestly seen guys my age do just as well with the
younger girls as guys in their 20s? I'd find that
hard to believe; you always hear younger girls
talking about "creepy older guys" (even if those
guys aren't noticeably creepy -- the mere fact
that they're approaching the younger girls seems
to freak them out). What do you think about this?
-B.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, you're not alone. I know that
there are a lot of other men out there who are
thinking, "I'm a nice, stable, intelligent guy...
and I should be able to attract women."
You must realize that women don't really care
if you're a nice guy. "Nice" doesn't light up
their emotions and make them feel A GUT LEVEL
ATTRACTION.
What DOES make them feel it? You guessed it...
teasing, humor, unpredictable behavior and that
magical combination of being Cocky & Funny.
I heard a great theory once: Too many of us
guys were raised by our MOTHERS, and not our
fathers. Or, we were raised in a household where
our mothers dominated our fathers. In either case,
we learned how to please a MOTHER, not how to
attract a LOVER.
Do yourself a favor, and think for a moment
about what it would be like to be an attractive
woman in your mid 20s who is approached all the
time by "nice" guys that want to take you out and
bore you with conversation about the news and
weather. Now ask yourself: "What kind of guy would
instantly get my attention and cause me to feel an
attraction to him?"
Women like the kind of personality that I
prescribe.
They like it the same way as we guys like firm,
young bodies and beautiful faces. Think about it.
...and that about wraps it up.
If you want to learn the secrets that have
taken me YEARS to figure out, then I would highly
recommend that you go and download a copy of my
online eBook, "Double Your Dating." My book isn't
an imaginary work of fiction that I dreamed up for
entertainment purposes.
It's the result of studying what successful
guys do to attract women, then personally testing
out and refining what I learned until I felt like
I could explain it in a way that other guys could
understand. I also include three booklets with it
that describe the different steps from getting
emails, all the way to getting physical, the
personality types of the men that are most
attractive to women, and how to turn a woman on in
ways she's never experienced.
You can download it right now here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=SZZZVH&lid=3&ll=1
And, if you're ready for SUPER success with
women and dating, then it's time for you to step
up to the plate and order yourself a copy of my
Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.
I'm talking about over 12 full hours of
digitally recorded and edited audio or video of ME
personally teaching you my very best material...
the stuff that I teach only in this program and at
my live seminars.
You can order it and try it at zero risk... and
I'll even ship it to you in a plain box for your
privacy. Try it... if you don't like it, just send
it back and you won't pay anything. If you love it
(and I know you will because you're going to meet
more women after you go through it), just keep it
and I'll even bill you in five easy payments.
I can't make it any easier or at any lower
risk.
Go check out some great video preview clips
here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=SZZZVH&lid=4&ll=1
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.