So other day I said something at work, was pretty insensitive, and I realized as of late it seems like I will without fail say something w/o thinking. Males ignore it when I do this, it's almost like they say to themselves "well, he's a good guy, prob doesn't realize I care etc, no problem" But women? wow, they get pissed. They immediately get defensive, justify and then look for a crack in my armor. Usually I hear something like "Wow, like your perfect" and usually answer is "well, no but I have it pretty close don't I babe?" Anyway not picking on women, just pointing out that as a group they seem most pissed off at me usually. Probably my fault, remember guys, fastest way to losing is arguing with a woman. If you learn to just say "your right" and get it over with, you'll be happier and less agitated later when you have to do what she says anyway then if your spent an hour arguing your point, hour making it up to her and two days trying to get back in her pants.
Sensitivity is reserved for when you tell me someone died, if your dating I can tell ya I see things wayyyyyyyy different. For instance, lets say you dated someone for 6 months, was best time you ever had, and all of a sudden they're gone. Most look at that like "He/She left me, I can't believe they broke my heart" I'm more of the mindset that "Thank god I got 6 months of that, wonder what's next" Took me a long time to get there, trust me, but I sick of people lying in their grief, their pain, their self pity and then doing nothing about it. Anyway, my kids suck up almost everything I got, to get though most day's we're talking driving on fumes, barely enough to keep my job lol. So you'll notice I turned off comments etc, that cause I really don't want to fucking talk to ya bout it or if it was you, because if your on my friends list well it's not you lol. There, I was sensitive and made sure your feelings weren't hurt? Better? lol Anyway w/ relationships
Spend an hour crying, spend an hour reflecting on how you can do it better, then spend 2x as long preparing for the next one. Feel free to take a couple days if you need to, but be prepared to come out w/ a smile on your face. Just don't obsess bout them, don't find reasons to harass the shit out of them. They would be there if you where the one. Be glad they are letting you find the "one" that will spend the rest of your life w/ you. Trust me, I've been guilty of the whole wallow crap before so I am speaking from experience lol.
Reserve your sensitivity for kids who have bad parents, for people who lost someone close to them, not for a person who has inside them the intelligence to change their lot in life. I say challenge those people, call them out and tell them, if you loved them, really loved them, not just sorta liked them but loved them you'd do it. I always say "Happiness isn't an accident" and it's true. I take ownership of my happiness. If you catch me not happy, wait, cause I'll be either accepting or changing something soon no worries. It's my life, I have to live w/ myself when I close my eyes every day for the rest of my life. It's not an accident, and it's no one's life but yours. Go get what you want, do what you want, make sure everyday your waking up and saying "Yup, today I want to do exactly what I am about to do" or change.
Anyway, that's why my sensitivity is low I guess, everyone talking bout issues and no one looking at things the way they should
Have a good night, and remember, if I wanted comments, I wouldn't be asking you now to not make any ;)
T
