Some of my friends have ask me b4 why I love bad boys/guys?? Becuz they are sensitive creatures. They are very protective of the woman they love, they will go against their family, or friends if they turn against or talk badly about the woman they love. They are quick to come to ur rescue. They are rebellious of authority figures which makes them even more interesting to women. They usually have bodies like a Greek god, tattoos on every part or various parts of their bodies. Usually they are spontaneous about things u do together. The couple of bad boys/guys that I've dated.....one in particular bought me flowers, borrowed a sports car from his boss & took me out for the nite. They love to have fun, so they are always creating fun things to do. Although I wasn't real big into wearing crop tops & mini skirts with high heels .... I could have at anytime, & no one would have messed with me as long as my bull dog was with me. Bad boys/guys are passionate, on the spot type of guys. Most women want them becuz they think they can change them.....or they want to be involved with them becuz they are so much fun. Dating a Bad Boy/Guy is the most exciting relationship u can ever have in ur life. If U get one to really fall In Love with U, they will b there pretty much for the rest of ur life. They are hard to get through to at times, but once u get their trust & Love, Ur pretty much their world to them. Bad Boys/Guys are confident, they aren't readily available, they aren't hurt if u turn them down.....they know they can get someone else quickly. They value & respect themselves - along with valuing & respecting U.
Good Boys/Guys are easier to love u, & they are completely loyal to u from the beginning. They will be honest with u at all times, but they will never completely give up their friends or their family for u like a bad boy will. Anything U do to a Good Boy/Guy is always ur fault to their family or their friends. U can never completely become a good boys/guys world. They may treat U like a princess in ur face & in front of ur friends & family....but behind ur back - ur gonna always be the pushy, bossy bitch!! Anything Wrong with or Bad in the Good Boys/Guys life is always becuz of U - that woman. They don't really value themselves. They are boring, they are readily available to u 24 hours a day & U can trample all over them & they just keep coming back for more. They have no respect for themselves, which is why they so easily talk about U behind ur back. They have no confidence in themselves.....and they are very needy & clingy. And if U ever notice....most of them seem to suffer from negative views of their life, & the world around them. They seem depressed most of the time.
Think about it which would U rather be to a guy?? Then think about which type of guy U would rather have in ur life.......... Just some food for thought.........
Are you a nice Person who has always wondered why the cocky/confident person -- the one who barely appears interested in someone -- is usually the one who gets that person?
Have you suffered from hearing the words, "You're a really nice person, but I only like you as a friend," from someone who you would do (or may, in fact, have already done) just about anything and everything for -- only to turn around and watch them date (or even chase) someone who treats them like they are nothing special? And are you stumped wondering why they would date someone who treats them like that when they could have you who would treat them like a prince/princess and give them everything they want? Well, you better brace yourself because I'm going to tell you a couple of secrets that you might not want to hear.
First, "nice" equates with boring and predictable. Look up "nice" in the dictionary and you find: pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory. In other words, average -- not exceptional, not exciting, and not sexy. I'll bet you've never heard someone say they didn't want to date someone because they were too confident, too passionate, or too exciting -- have you? But, I'll bet you have heard someone say things like, "They’re such a nice person. They’re so sweet and they’re always there for me, but I only like them as a friend." Or, "They’re such a good person -- kind, thoughtful, generous, honest, loyal -- but there's no chemistry. They just don't turn me on." Sadly, We’ve all heard it at some time. The fact is, Mr. Nice Person, you cannot bore someone into feeling attracted to you or into wanting to date you. And as obvious as that sounds, if you are one of those people I described that is exactly what you are trying to do. And it won't work.
Please understand that I am not suggesting that you mistreat or disrespect them in any way.
What I suggesting is that you value and respect you more.
To illustrate what I mean: The answer to the question, "Why does the person who doesn't appear to care as much about that person get that person?" is simple: The nice person cares too much, too soon. They have made the person too important and too valuable and it shows in everything they say and do. They are too available, too eager to please, too accommodating, and they give too much -- all without getting anything in return. By doing so, they have made themselves appear desperate, insecure, and needy of this person's attention, affection, and approval -- and they have stripped themselves of any value in that person’s eyes. After all, if you’re already doing and giving everything, without them doing or giving anything - why would they value you? They won't. They are not going to value you any more than you value yourself. What they are going to do is look for someone else, someone who they perceive as being more worthy, more confident, and more valuable.
It works like this:
Once you need something, or you want it too badly, you forfeit your strength and lose all power of negotiation. You are in a position of weakness and you are perceived as weak. Someone (or something) else is in control of you, the situation, and it's outcome. People in this situation appear to be anything but confident, strong, and exciting. More, they are perceived as being unworthy and as lacking value.
Translation: Things that are easily acquired, obtained, or maintained, without any effort or sacrifice, lack value... it's human nature.
The secret to why the cocky/confident person winning with that person, over the nice person, is that they are perceived as being a stronger, more confident person with more value. How? They never invest everything -- their entire being, ego, and self-worth in what one person’s response or reaction to them is. They don't gush with compliments; they aren’t always available; they don't give too much; and they know they aren’t going to die if someone says "no" to them. More, their attitude is, yeah, I'd like to go out with you, but if I can't, that's OK -- I'm a busy person, with exciting things going on, and lots of other options
