I constantly see postings from guys that go something like "Why do woman always date the assholes and pass up on the nice guys?" or "Why do nice guys always finish last?"
(Some of this stuff can be reversed for woman to think about too, about men and what men to avoid!)
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"Most" men who are self-proclaimed "nice guys", are one of two things. Either a liar, or a pussy.
With that being said, you couldn't possibly know the whole story behind women and the men they choose.
You only know what the women tell you about their relationship. And, even that can be completely opposite of the true story.
I KNOW for a fact that controlling jerks are out there... I've been with enough myself. But, I also know that a lot of women, just like a lot of men, lie their asses off, and only tell part of the story. They want people to feel sorry for them, etc. Which is why they stay in "abusive relationships" cause there's no real abuse going on.
There are a few woman who are in truly abusive relationships. And most of them stay either out of fear or because it's the only thing they know and it's the change in what they know that they fear. And, then there's the ones who say "But, I love him"... They're just stupid.
And, then we have the difference between what you think might be abusive, and in reality, is not. If he has a pissy attitude because she STILL doesn't have a job after three years and they can't afford to pay the bills, that's not abuse. He needs to kick her ass to the curb, which is where you will then fit in, because she's looking for her next sugar-daddy.
As for women who stay in controlling relationships, most of the time, they don't realize that the controlling factor is there until it's too late. Usually, it's after all their friends are gone and their relationship with their families have been stressed, that they realize their husbands/boyfriends are controlling. Controlling men will do anything they can to get rid of a woman's personal/family relationships to keep control. If she has no family to run to, or friends to help her, she's stuck.
Also, there's a fine line between respect and the creation of boredom. Some men respect women to the point of boredom. Not many women want a man she can walk all over. And, not many women want a man who exhibits desperation. And, if you exhibit "stalkerish" behavior, you can totally just forget it.
When you start telling a woman you would never treat her that way, and you would respect her and treat her right and treat her like a queen and do anything on the planet for her and she should be with you instead of the jerk... She'll walk away for two reasons most of the time... One, it looks like desperation on your part, and two she probably thinks you're lying just like the handful of jerks she's talked to before (refer to opening statement).
Also, just because you'll respect a woman doesn't mean she'll like you beyond friendship. There's MUCH more to it. Like chemistry. Just because you like someone, doesn't mean there will be chemistry there. Also, face the facts... One woman may think you're all cute and adorable, whereas another woman is not physically attracted to you for whatever reason.
You must also consider the fact that opposites attract. For example, what would happen if you had two controlling people in a relationship? They both try to take control, and it just doesn't work.
Relationships are not cut and dry, like "I'm single, you're single, we belong together". Life doesn't work that way. What happens when you put two people who will NOT take control in anything? They are left in a life of boredom and limbo, because neither person will take the initiative to do anything. And, there MUST be attraction on both sides, not just one.
When I see guys post this stuff online, I have to laugh. Because most guys truly have no idea. Or, they do and refuse to admit to themselves. And, most of the time, they commiting the worst of sins when
looking for their love.
When looking for your "one and only", try to follow some of these hints:
1. Don't be a pussy.
2. Don't look for women who are in need. (Be their friend. That's what they need! not a new man!)
3. Never talk to a married woman as more than a friend. (If she cheats on him, for ANY reason, she'll cheat on you, too)
4. Don't act like a stalker. (Sitting alone in your car outside her house on a rainy night while she's sleeping because you think "it's romantic, and you're still close to her" is cause for a restraining order, not a relationship!!)
5. Don't tell a woman you want to marry her after only talking for two days on the internet. You don't even know her!
6. Meet her MANY times in person before committing to a relationship. For all you know, everything she told you online was a complete lie.
7. NEVER EVER post another "nice guy" bulletin on the internet. Most woman will read it and see it as a sign of desperation, and you will lose.
