Very often, we shut our hearts or shut others out to protect ourselves from being hurt. While we are on guard, we are defensive. Often we become unapproachable and unavailable. We look for, and usually find, an ulterior motive in everything and everyone. The motives and agendas we see, whether they exist or not, are the reasons we must protect ourselves. At the same time, we are isolated and lonely. We dont want to be hurt. We dont want to be alone, but we dont know what to do about how we feel.
In general, people are not out to hurt you. They hurt you
because you expect to be hurt. They hurt you because your barriers look and feel very similar to their barriers. When people see their issues being reflected back to them, they often become afraid of what they see and feel. In response, they want to get to you before you get to them. In the process, you get hurt. You must accept that people are not out to hurt you. They hurt you because they dont realize that what they do or how they do it causes you pain.
They dont know what causes you pain because you wont come from behind the barrier long enough to share with them the pain of your experiences. You believe that if you show them your wounds, they will think you are weak or dumb. It is important to understand that when you shut your heart down, or live life on the defensive, there is absolutely no way healing or light or love can get in.
When you shut down, you are going to keep on hurting. Until today, you may have believed that people are out to get you. Just for today, let someone into your heart. Open yourself to the healing light of love. Expect the best. You maybe surprised by what happens.
TODAY I AM WILLING TO DROP MY DEFENSES AND OPEN MY HEART!
