As many of you know I'm a single mom. I was married for 10 years to a not so nice guy. We have been divorced now for just over a year, apart for the last two and with that comes the "Allie, When are you going to marry again?" I hear the "that boy needs a father figure".. and," you need a man in your life to take care you".. I hear the, "your so cute and have a great personality you could find a nice guy to settle down with".
Hold the bus! Who says I want to settle down? Who says I need someone to take care of me or my kid? I'm Sick of people assuming that because I'm a woman I need some big strong man to keep me safe- when in reality it was one of those big strong men that hurt me the most and kept me in danger.. Nothing like a broken jaw or cracked ribs to show ya that a husband wont keep you safe.
Don't get me wrong, I dont think all marriage is bad. And I truly believe that people can marry and be happy. I like to think of myself as a romantic and I want to believe in the Happily Ever After as much as the next girl... But who is to say that the happily ever after has to be in marriage? Where is it written for a woman to be happy she has to be married and have the white picket fence and the 2.5 kids?
At this point in my life I dont.... Repeat. DON'T want to be married! I just got out of a relationship that ended badly. I'm Not looking for a husband. I'm happy being alone with my son. I'm Happy Living my life and hanging out with my family and friends that love and support me.
I'm Not saying that I will never marry again(never say never because just when you do it will happen lol). If and when I meet someone that I COULD live my life without but never ever want to then.. maybe... I will remarry.. Maybe not...Either way I'm happy with my life as it is now. I don't need someone to take care of me, Littleman has lots of great male role models in his life with my dad and JJ and Casey. I can take the trash out,change a light bulb,fix things that are broken or atleast have the number to call someone that can all by myself.
So to the married I say YAY for you.. Really I think its great. Live long wonderful, happy lives together.. But for me I'm good just the way things are.(If it aint broke don't try and fix it
