I received this from a kindred spirit this morning and thought I would post it as a blog.
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When You Feel Unloved By, Heavenletters
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God/dess said:
This blessing of giving love is yours. Understand what a blessing it is. It is a great gift given to you, this ability to love, this necessity to love. If you did not have the ability to love, you would not bemoan when you do not feel love. You may think you feel bereft when you feel unloved, but it is bereavement of your own inexpression of love that strikes your heart.
When you feel unloved, this is the time to find the stifled love in your own heart and let it out. Love stifled feels like no one loves you, but it is really the desert of giving love that pains you. It is your own giving of love that you crave to see.
Try it.
At those times when your heart feels dried up, and you feel you do not have a thimbleful of love to give, this then is when you will do well to return to the natural world I have given you. A walk in the woods will help. Looking up at the God-given sky will help. Begin by loving the natural environment. Look at a leaf of a tree. Pick a berry. Crunch your boots in snow. Look and listen. Hear the birds. What are they possibly chirping but Love, love, love.
It may help to pull weeds. And let each weed you pull symbolize a block to love gone. Be gentle with your blocks, not fierce. Tweeze them out. They are little nothings getting in the way of love. When truth be known, nothing can stand in the way of love, but something is belying the love in your heart. It feels stalemated. It feels like it has no place to go. So, then, beloveds, find a place for it. Feel compassion for all the growing things. Hold them to your heart. Wish to give them love if only you knew how.
Observe a puppy, and know that is what your heart is like, would be like if it had not been interfered with. Your heart would go all over the place, wobbly or not. Your heart would engage, endeavor, and explore all the lovingness in the world. A puppy knows only how to give. No one has taught the puppy restraint. He is love let go on the universe. Observe the similarity between your heart and a puppy.
When your heart feels hurt, lonely, empty, quasi-incapable of loving, know that it is protesting its disuse. Your hearts giving has too often been discouraged by your deciding mind. Your heart is not by nature fussy, but your mind likes to pick and choose, find the best tomatoes in the bin, as it were.. All the while, the importance is not in picking but in giving. Give love. Give love until love remembers itself and flows from your heart. Give love until you remember how good it feels. Give love regardless of what your mind decides.
Your heart has been following directives of your mind, and so your heart has withheld love. It has felt forbidden to love, as though it needed a spectacular diamond to love. Not finding that spectacular diamond, your mind has told your heart to pick up its marbles and go home. Your mind has told your heart: Recede. There is nothing good enough here for you to love. Go home.
Obedient heart then denies its own nature and withdraws. This is what makes your heart ache.
Have your mind give your heart new messages. Let your mind tell your bereaving heart: Okay, be yourself. Love everywhere. Be without object. Just love anyway. Never mind the restrictions I gave. Now I tell you to love. Pour that love out, and soon you will be swimming in it, relaxed, floating on your back, looking up at the sky, and happy to have given love as if you knew that love was always yours to give, as if you know that love is all you had to give, and that that giving is the lightness of heart you have been so desiring. I now give you permission to love and no longer deny yourself the joy of it. Let love be.
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The love I give is the love I receive
As I love and accept myself exactly as I am right here and right now with all my so-called flaws and embarrassing parts, I find it easier to accept you in the same way. When I put conditions on my love, for myself or others, then I am not loving freely. "I will love you if" is not love; it is control. So I learn to release the need to control others and allow them the freedom to be who they are. I see us all struggling on our pathways, learning to create peace inside of ourselves, doing the best we can with the understanding, knowledge, and awareness we have at the time. As more of us open our conditional love, we will tap into the new level spiritual power that is here for us. I see a blanket of benevolence covering the planet and helping us transform our consciousness from fear to love.
Affirmation:
Accept yourself totally and completely for one full day and see what happens.
~ Meditations to Heal Your Life - Louise L. Hay ~
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Love . . . the most powerful force in the Universe.
It can wipe away tears, turn a frown into a smile.
Give hope where there was none.
It can turn enemies into friends.
It can turn the darkness into the Light.
Love is the Light.
Love removes all judgment.
It accepts and does not condemn.
It has compassion and understanding.
With love there is no anger, no fear and no suffering.
There is only peace.
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Suffering & Compassion
As you realize you are inherently interconnected with every other sentient being, you will feel both suffering and compassion. You are not alone. The poignancy of being in a sentient body is suffering. This suffering is the beginning of transmutation and the opening of your heart to feeling with others. This does not mean you will suffer more, but that you will realize how much all beings suffer, which in itself, will transform suffering into pure presence. As you allow yourself to feel suffering, your self pity will vanish into empathy. You are embedded in every living being, and every living being is embedded in you. The Love-Light transmutes suffering when you allow yourself to feel with others through your own suffering. Let suffering be pure energy. Let go of trying to posses it. Visualize and feel suffering as the last vestiges of clinging, a poignant burning within your being. Suffering says, "Feel and blend with everything and transmute negativity. Change pain into compassion. Bear with what comes to you and cling to nothing. What is immutable?"
Compassion
As you fully realize your oneness with all sentient beings, your heart will open to the sick, the hurt, the helpless, and the dying. This is a great art and mystery of transforming poison into medicine. Fear not pollution or being hurt by others, for as you include and embrace even your "enemies" the stream of conflict and suffering in your own being will cease. Compassion cannot be contained or limited, yet it embraces all. Negativity and its roots are burned like incense in fire and dissolved like salt in water when the generous flow of compassion floods your being. Respond to people and situations around you with gentle kindness. You are love in blessed companionship with all and any near or far. Visualize and feel Compassion as a golden elixir created in your own heart. Compassion says, "Love the ugly, the sick, and the difficult as much as the beautiful, the healthy, and the easy. Transmute the posion of the world and it will turn to medicine in the crucible of your heart."
Rowena Pattee Kryder, PhD
