Sexy is a matter of opinion.
In defining sexy, there are no rules, only preferences. One man finds eyes to be a woman's most attractive physical quality while another considers her hips or waist the most appealing. Some women like tall, dark, and handsome men; some women like smaller, blonder, even more fragile men.
Like features, opinions change from person to person.
Sexy is a matter of personality and confidence.
A person can have a body to be envied, but without a matching personality, they are not classy. Classiness is conveyed through simple confidence.
Classically sexy people are confident in their appearance and composure. They may not necessarily be super-model beautiful or drop-dead handsome, but they possess an unshakable assuredness of their worth. They are not arrogant, but they know who they are and are secure in that knowledge.
Classically sexy people do not feel the need to bare all because they do not define their worth by how much they can attract. The skanky look described earlier comes from either too much confidence or too little.
Sexy is a matter of heart.
True beauty and attractiveness really does come from within, but we do not acknowledge this truth deeply enough, nor do we allow this truth to permeate our actions enough. A genuinely nice person who is average-looking is far more attractive than a person with stunning physical beauty, who has no inner fire.
Sexiness needs to be more than meets the eye, because what meets the eye will fade. If there is no depth of heart and personality to give substance to outer beauty, attraction will die.
The most beautiful people in the world are the ones with whom you can talk, share deeply, discuss honestly and laugh about life, share common interests, and in short, develop lasting bonds of friendship and relationship that go beyond superficialities.
Personality does not leave as much to opinion as physical preferences do. A man named Peter wrote a letter in the first century with wise words that still apply today: "Beauty should not come from what you wear. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth."
