I wrote this back in October... it was posted on myspace... not much has changed... so I left it the same... here ya go everyone!
Alright, alright, here ya go, you wanna know what I want, here it is. Enough of you ask on a regular basis, so let me give you a rough draft. If I could create a man, here are some of the things I would want from him, for him, and him to be about. Just SOME of the things.
First of all, someone who can stand on his own two feet. He doesn't have to be led around by anyone. He can stand up and make the decisions in a relationship, he is the LEADER of our house. Our "Comander in Chief" so to speak. That doesn't mean I can't have an opinion, and I can't speak my mind, or that he won't take into account my ideas and feelings, it means he makes the final decision, and I'll back it 100 percent.
I want a provider. I am so traditional in my thinking about how relationships work. I'm so very old school, and so many men aren't anymore, so this will probably be my downfall, and why I'll be alone. It is a man's job to provide and take care of his family, it's a woman's job to take care of the home and nurture. This doesn't mean she can't help financially, but I refuse, I WILL not ever kill myself pulling double shifts and doing whatever I have to do while a man sits at home and plays FREAKING video games or whatever.
We all say we want honesty, and I'm hear to tell you that's exactly what I want. Sometimes the truth can be hard to take, and even harder to tell. I have all the respect in the world for someone who can tell you how it is straight up without lying or sugar coating it. No this doesn't mean that you're an ass about it, there are tactful ways of saying negative things too!
It is a MUST that whoever decides that he wants to get into a serious relationship with me KNOWS that my kids come first and that he's going to be there father in everyway but one. Right now they don't have one, as sad as that is I think it makes things easier too. He has to love them as if they were his own. This is not a task accomplished very easily. I guess this means he better have a big heart. There will be times in their lives where they scream, "YOU'RE NOT MY DAD!" or "I HATE YOU!" He has to realize no matter what they say or how hateful they may get in the moment, it's going to happen, and does happen with almost every child, whether they're yours by blood or not. I grew up in a VERY blended family, and I don't get why people get so hung up on the "step-child" thing. My sisters aren't my step-sisters, they are my SISTERS.
I would LOVE to find someone who enjoys going to church as much as I do, and who understands that being a Christian doesn't mean that you're perfect, but that you try everyday to get to where you need to be faithfully. Church has become a big part of our daily lives and routine, I'd LOVE to share that with someone else.
I want someone who's not afraid to dance in the rain, hold hands, or just grab a kiss in the middle of all his friends. He'll laugh with me whether we run out of gas, or fall off the bed in the middle of. . . you get the idea. . . I want to be able to just KNOW that he's there and always will be no matter what happens throughout our lives. I've seen enough married men doing things they shouldn't, and let me tell you, it makes a girl wonder if there are any men that don't do some of the things they do. I still have to have some hope though.
I'll wrap this up by saying, I want someone who KNOWS and UNDERSTANDS just how much more important it is to LOVE the person you're with rather than BEING in love with them Love doesn't just happen to us. We become infatuated, crush on someone, and we call that love. So often we eventually get out of that stage, lose that RUSH of feelings and get bored. We ask ourselves, "what now??" Then we look for that rush with something or someone else. I don't want the temporary feelins of being in love, I want the permanancy of simply LOVING someone for the rest of my life.
I'm so blessed to have so many friends I adore and love, now where's THE ONE?
