What do you really want
By Sondra
What do you really want in life? Do you want love?Trust? Acceptance? Faithfulness? Do you want honesty? Friends? Togetherness? Attention? A life mate? Whatever it is you want in life, always remember that you get out of life what you put into it! If you willingly give love, you will receive love from someone who is willingly giving it in return, if you want someone who will be faithful, you have to be in all ways faithful. If you want friends, you have to be friendly. If you want others to be honest with you, you have to be an honest person yourself. If you want someone to give you their undivided attention, you have to be willing to give that person your undivided attention in return, or even sometimes give your attention first. If you want to be fully accepted "as you are" then you have to accept others in the same way. Do you want to be trusted? Then you have to learn to trust! As for happiness, others cant make us happy, we have to choose to be happy and start to actually live it, or we wont have it...If you are unhappy, do something about it, do what it takes to make you feel more positive and lighthearted. Then you will draw that type of person to you. Do you want to share your life with a person who will stand beside you till the day you die? Then you have to be willing to stand beside that person through thick and thin, accept all faults as well as goodness of that person. Do you want a great present/future? Then you have to learn to let go of the past and remember that no-one in your present life is the person from your past who hurt, used or abused you. Do you want someone a part of your life who lets you be you? Then you have to be willing to let that person be their self. Do you want to be very close to someone? Then you have to let that person be very close to you, and allow yourself to be close to that person. Its all very simple-kind of like the Karma of what goes around comes around-you get what you give, all in all.
So if someone you know loves you, love them back. Allow that person to love you and don't be afraid to love that person in return, deeply, strongly, passionately, fully & completely. If you have someone who trusts you, try to learn to trust that person. Give love and you get love. Its that simple.
Sometimes it is hard to trust and allow ourselves to fully love another person. I know that firsthand. Who of us who has ever loved hasn't been hurt at one time or another? Part of life is pain, part of life is love, and love can bring pain...but you cant look at a person and believe they are the same person that hurt you years ago. You know better. So give the person a real chance, really take time to get to know that person and what is in his/her heart before you jump to any conclusions...I bet you will be surprised at how the person really feels and thinks, and it could be a good surprise! You cant really know a person over a course of a few weeks, tho I do believe you may be able to love them in that amount of time if you allow yourself to do so. In some ways we choose whether to love or not. You have to be willing to allow yourself to be loved and to love in return tho, or it is a waste of your time and theirs too. Don't waste another persons time-their time is just as precious as yours! If you love someone even just a little bit, tell them so, and if you dont have any love for them, tell them so. Honesty is, after all, the best policy. If you aren't fully honest with a person, don't expect the next on your list to be honest with you. Everything you do and say in life comes back to haunt you, eventually. If you do not trust and wont learn to, are too stuck in the past to do so, the next one you care about wont trust you, they will do the same stuff you do to the current person...
None of us is perfect but we are created by a God who loves us and wants only what is best for us. He wont put more on us than we can bear, even if it sometimes doesn't feel that way...He gives us someone to love and be loved by, someone to lean on and share our hearts with, whether it is positive or negative feelings we are going through. Sometimes we just have to open our eyes and grab onto what is given us in order to be happy people, and not worry about what others may think. Are your eyes open? Are you willing to find the one who is lost and needs you to find him/her?
