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Dear Ninja,
How do you fix a broken heart after you are fuwidowed?
~KaWk BlOcK kEn
Dear Ken,
My thoughts are prayers go out to DON1897, may he rest in peace. And to all those who loved him, and called him family and friend as well.
Losing someone you were so close to can be hard. Take comfort in knowing that whatever pain and suffering he had is gone, and he is at peace. Take comfort on the shoulder of a friend. Take comfort in a pint of Ben & Jerry's (just one though, don't over-do it).
Grief is a process, and you can't leap-frog past any part of it. Although, you can help ease the pain by sitting down and writing him a letter goodbye. It will help you get some closure, and you can say everything you wanted to say when he was here. As you're writing it, think about the things he did that made you laugh and smile. It's alright to laugh and smile again. When our loved ones pass, they don't want us to sit around crying. They want us to celebrate the wonderful people that they were to keep them alive forever in our hearts.
If you take the time to write the letter, whether you make it public or keep it private, it will help you release the emotions. There is a physical response to the pen on paper that you get. (Same goes for letting go of feelings for an ex.) Releasing those emotions will help you push past the hurt and sadness so you too can be at peace.
Good luck, and if you need an ear or a shoulder, I'm always close by.
