Using "Mixed Messages" To Create Attraction
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***QUESTION***
Hey Dave, how's it hanging?
Read your stuff...interesting. Makes a lot of
sense to appear different then all the others. I
have one question, however. This C&F stuff (can I
call it "friendly mocking"?) really only works on
women who are sure of themselves and who will not
take your jokes to the heart. But how many of
those are in the world? I mean, with today's
"perfect" pop-stars most women have at least some
insecurities. So, how can you use this technique
and not accidentally hit a weak spot? Is there a
neutral C&F approach?
J Brooklyn, NY
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I think you're hitting on an important point
here.
I think that a lot of guys "secretly" want to
figure out a way to meet women without RISKING
anything.
This is probably why personal ads and online
dating web sites are so popular.
The problem with not wanting to RISK anything
is that it creates a mindset that leads to being
AVERAGE.
And "average" doesn't create ATTRACTION.
I teach guys to use a specific kind of humor
that I call "Cocky & Funny".
One of the purposes of the Cocky & Funny
technique is to clearly demonstrate that you are
NOT intimidated by a woman, and to INSTANTLY
communicate that you are DIFFERENT from other men.
You'd like to know the magic way to "not
accidentally hit a weak spot"...
But guess what?
Accidents happen.
Risk is part of life.
Don't worry so much about hitting a "weak spot"
while you're teasing or busting on a woman... just
concern yourself with making sure you're being
FUNNY while you're doing it.
If you meet a woman who is so sensitive that
she can't take a joke, or you "accidentally" over
do it, don't worry about it. No biggie.
She's probably either too uptight or
emotionally fragile for you to have a good time
with anyway.
If you want to make a cake, you have to break a
few eggs, man.
Remember, your objective isn't to be MEAN to
women, or to hurt them... your objective is to use
a specific type of humor to create ATTRACTION.
And give up this "neutral" idea. Neutral is
BORING. And Boring is NOT the way to create
ATTRACTION.
***QUESTION***
David "The Man"--
First of all, your Advanced CD Series is THE most
definitive exhaustive resource on dating ever
written. It boggles my mind that nobody ever
figured this stuff out before. You are the
research scientist that broke the mold of all that
bookstore fluff, the Darwin of Dating.
I can now approach and get the email of a woman
who would have made me shake in my boots just a
few months ago. My most recent success was a girl
I dated who I turned up the C+F to the max, but my
old inner wussy made a brief appearance and that
was that. Oh well. "Next!" I'll get better and
better.
I have improved quite a bit, but I'm looking for
some guy friends as you suggest. However, I'm
having a problem finding guys who are good with
women. I'm not seeing them. All I see everywhere
I go are wusses. Any thoughts or ideas?
I've also thought about finding friends who are
students of yours so we can get together for team
efforts. Any suggestions here?
Thanks again for the incredible impact you've had
on my life.
J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, I have one thought for you...
This "Everywhere I go all I see is wusses"
thing can be a challenge. I shake my head almost
every single time I go out, because I think we're
in the middle of a WUSS EPIDEMIC in this country.
Keep looking.
It's worth it.
If you have to, ask friends and associates at
work if they know any guys who are really good
with women.
And remember, be cool. Guys who are good with
women often like to help other guys learn. But
don't be a boat anchor around his neck...
If you do your homework and find some guys who
can help you, it will REALLY pay off.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
Sir,
I received one of you Q&A emails by mistake, I'm
sure. I am an intelligent, female professional and
I reall-ll-ll-lly had a good laugh after reviewing
your web site as well.
If you think that ALL women will be turned on by
these things, you are very mistaken. The classy,
sophisticated, and well educated as well as
intriguing and very attractive will have totally
different opinions on all these subjects. I think
you would do better to consider your experience as
incomplete.
However, I'm sure you are making an obscene
amount of money by offering this misinformation
for sale to men.
Laughing Uncontrollably in Alaska
>>>MY COMMENTS:
An intelligent female professional that lives
in ALASKA?
Don't even get me started there...
And since you seem to be claiming here that
you're an AUTHORITY on "The classy, sophisticated,
and well educated... as well as intriguing and
very attractive" women... I have to ask you where
you're getting this particular education...
Alaska?
Maybe those words mean something different
where you're from.
Whatever.
Look, I used to be a "nice", sweet, BORING guy
who did nice things for women, acted respectful,
and generally was everything I thought a "good
guy" should be.
And my success with meeting and attracting
women was horrible.
I had a few good relationships with attractive
women, but these were ACCIDENTAL. It only happened
because I was in the right place at the right
time, and because the women just happened to have
NOTHING BETTER GOING ON.
Now that I do what I teach, I'm able to attract
beautiful women whenever I want.
You do the math.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
Hey Dave,
I forward your news letter to my ex-husband and to
my other male friends and they all thanked me for
it. I agree with all of your advice. It's kind of
scary how well you read women. You have also
helped me to realize what I'm attracted to and
why. Take care!
S MD
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, it's OK for you to admit that you're
attracted to ME.
I don't blame you.
You forgot to include your picture, dear.
Waiting patiently.
Your friend,
David D.
