The Buddha said "with our thoughts we create our world. Our self-talk - the phrases we quietly and often unconsciously say to ourselves, and the questions we ask - contain the concepts,filters, blinders, and occasionally, the crystal clear windows through which we observe and interpret reality. If we approach the world with expectations to be met, rather than an openness to accept (or at least begin with) what is there already, those expectations become the source of our own misery. If we form tight, detailed concepts of what we need to be happy, those concepts become the root of our unhappiness, because they shut out all of the opportunities to find happiness already around us.