I haven't written in this blog for quite some time. I don't have much time on here these days. My husband came home from Iraq and we moved into our new place only to live there for a few short months. He has PTSD and its very frustrating for me. We are currently separated because of it. I was suffering from major depressive disorder and his PTSD was not helping my depression.
I knew he had it before he came home because he became very distant with me then too. He just needed some time he'd always say. I felt so unwanted and so unloved I was in tears for many months awaiting his arrival home. This also didn't help my depression either. When he got home things were good. He was still a little distant but a month into it, he just became extremely distant, he stopped telling me things, he'd spend most of his time away from home, usually at his parents or at school. He became emotionally abusive, he'd make fun of me and things I did just wasn't good enough. I was never right, he was. Its been very difficult to say the least.
I moved out got help for my MDD and got lots of support from my grandmother because my grandfather has suffered from PTSD for many years. She has been the biggest support through all of this.
I informed my husbands parents that he had PTSD and that I didn't think they saw how it affected him and me. I told them he's had it for months, he was diagnosed with it in Iraq. They still think I am the blame for our relationship problems. I have MDD and yes that did affect the way I did things, but to blame me for all of our relationship problems was wrong of them.
They now treat me a lot better, in fact they're encouraging us to work things out. They've completely done a 180 with me, they're actually nice to me. Something I thought would never happen. I believe they're finally seeing that my husband does have PTSD and needs help for it. He either came out and told them, or they did their research online.
We are doing a lot better. We can actually talk without arguing. Something we couldn't do before. He is still distant with me, but he is getting better about that too. We are setting up an appointment with the marriage counselor in another couple of weeks.
So, that's my update. I'll keep you all posted if anything further develops.
