Putting “the moves” on her is an antiquated practice. They are aptly named “the moves” because they’re predictable, they’re used frequently and girls get tired of them after a while. Once the mystery is over and your moves are foreseeable, your girl is surely on her way to boredom, and she'll stop wanting sex.
Reel her excitement back in by generating heat and curiosity again. Learn to entice instead of “ask” with predetermined, repetitive nonverbal cues. Establish your true game and initiate sex in surprising, new ways. She may astonish you with her own surprises and blow you away. Here’s how you can initiate sex in new and creative ways:
Cook for her then feed her:
To a woman, the sight of a man cooking competently is its own aphrodisiac. Effort and skill are displayed nicely as she is inevitably drawn into the mouth-watering night you are creating for her. Offer her a glass of wine and let her have a taste of what’s to come. Feed her tasty morsels, indulge on her scrumptious lips as well, and give her a little task in the kitchen. While she is lightly engaged, slide up against her, brush up behind her, place kisses on her neck and cultivate the ultimate in anticipation. Pairing hunger -- both physical and sexual -- results in a fiery exchange.
Have a movie slumber night:
Instead of just renting a movie together and plopping in front of the couch, why not make an event out of it and have an in-house movie slumber night? You can watch sexy flicks she'll enjoy and prepare her favorite snacks in advance. Dress in pajamas, place a bunch of blankets and pillows in front of the television and promote the vibe of a sleepover party. Then, while those movies play, play with her as well. Start slowly with nonsexual touches and move on from there. Chances are those sexy scenes will work their own magic on her and get her into the mood and the coziness of it all with make her feel comfortable -- and being comfortable is necessary for most women to reach orgasm.
Board games for grownups:
When was the last time you played a board game in your underwear? Strip poker is a classic sex game. Classics are great, but modern sexual board games are novel ways to nudge your girl into a night of fun. You can find these kinds of games online and in adult stores. They can be highly detailed, rich in storyline and plot, have game cards, props, dice, player pieces, and descriptive scenarios to add to the excitement. There’s a lot out there, so take your pick, open a bottle of wine and have fun.
Show her your artistic side:
There are temporary tattoos, body paints and crayons you can apply directly on a willing body. The beauty of this activity is that you both need to shed some clothes and touch each other to do it. It’s like the happy ending is a foregone conclusion as you both are almost naked and running your hands up and down a once-blank canvas to apply your own brand of art.
Take her dancing:
Dancing is the ultimate in foreplay. Sweaty and hot, you feel pulsing music resonate and throb through your bodies as she moves in ways that display her inherently sexual nature. She writhes and gyrates in your arms while her body presses against you. Women love a guy who is not afraid to dance, and they love the entire package of the night out. She gets to dress in a little something that scorches the eyes and burns the image into your mind -- as well as the minds of other men nearby -- just be sure it’s you she goes home with.
A shower for two:
At the end of the night, pique her interest and set the tone for the evening by joining her in the shower or bath. Lather her up and linger over curves, tracing patterns along her skin, and touch her without initiating sex. After the shower is done, offer to massage her favorite lotion into her skin and allow her to relax into your touch as you gradually shift your movements into sensual caresses. She’ll be begging for it after all that pampering.
Whatever you do, make it surprising, different and not entirely focused and motivated on the orgasm at the end. When the moves become predictable, make up new ones. Change it up and keep her guessing. When you let a woman peg you into a category or allow your patterns to be known, she will, to some degree, control the situation and the outcome -- which, for you, means less sex and dismal enthusiasm.
However, if you constantly give her the unexpected, you have the ability to excite again and again. Make your sex life rousing and fun. She’ll look forward to joining you and inventing ways to seduce you as well. It’s all a game anyway. Make it pleasurable for you both.
