I have discovered there are two ways of thinking in the D/s world and I am mortified. After discussing this with some other Collarme coed’s the idea of pain, punishment, and spanking has brought many people to argue. In my endeavors I always assumed that when I was being spanked it was out pain and pleasure. They knew that I enjoyed the pain and wanted me feel it and take as much as I could. But then there are the others that use pain and spanking as punishment. They want to break the person they are with and overly hurt the person so the sub will beg for mercy. As a lover I am appalled by this idea and could not imagine being in a relationship that every night I had to be broken down and be with the one that wants to hurt me for his pleasure. I always thought that this kind of play was mutual pleasure and I will not stand for that.
