ever slept with a man or woman too soon and had
it ruin where things were going?
While it's important to not get too "physical" too
soon... it's not always the way a man acts afterwards
that changes things.
If you're like lots of women, then it's often by
accident that YOUR OWN FEELINGS quickly change and
become more "serious" and intense. And for lots of men,
this confuses them when it happens early on before
they really know you well.
Don't let this easily avoidable "trap" bring a
premature end to what could be a great relationship.
To learn how to keep the ATTRACTION and passion a
man feels for you alive before and after getting
physical... and keep it going long into a serious
relationship, you need to read THIS:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/NALA/?cid=VQZZZZ&lid=1&ll=1
Dear Crystal,
I got an email a while back from a woman who had
a great question.
I wanted to share it with you.
If you're in a place where you'd like to turn
around a "troubled" relationship with a man...
Or you've made some mistakes that have changed
the way you and a man are with each other and you're
not sure what to do next, then you need to keep reading...
**Email From A Reader**
Hi Christian,
I hope you can address this in one of your e-mails,
because I think a lot of women who've read your book
too late have the same agonizing question:
How do you forgive yourself for blowing a relationship
when you realize you slept with a guy too soon and he
lost all respect for you?
After reading your book, I realized that's why a
relationship that had started out so well was now
falling apart. I'm having a hard time forgiving myself
because I know I may have ruined a good thing through
my own stupidity. Please help me put this in perspective
so I stop thinking that I ruined something that
otherwise may have lasted a lifetime.
Can I recover from this and get back to where we were
in your opinion?
-D.G.
**My Response**
OK, slow down.
You're beating yourself up here, and it's not helping.
In fact, I'm sure it's completely working against you
right now the way you're worrying about what you've done
wrong.
While you're taking the credit and the blame for
everything here... you're only contributing to your own
suffering and making things worse for yourself.
So let me say this in a loving way-
CUT IT OUT!
Here's the first thing you need to learn and
understand...
You'll never get things back to "the way they were".
EVER.
And believe it or not, that's a GOOD THING.
It's time to let go of the past and start focusing
on creating what's going on and can be done in a
positive light in THE PRESENT.
I'll share a little secret with you that has
the power to change your life and give you the
kind of satisfaction and transformation you're
looking for.
It's time to for you to start recognizing and
ACCEPTING the beauty of things THE WAY THEY ARE.
And it's time for you to STOP anxiously worrying
and stressing out over how things have been in the
past.
You can learn lessons from the past, but you
can't change it.
That's why, on a deeper level...
The sooner you can let go of the part of you
that wants to CONTROL what has happened and how
things have unfolded... then the sooner you're
going to be able to let go and start changing
things for the better in THE PRESENT.
So...
Did you sleep with the man you were seeing
too soon and change the dynamic of your relationship
early on?
Maybe. But that's in the past.
You can't change things back to the way they
were.
But you CAN make things EVEN BETTER and
different than they were before... if you're
willing to let go of your fear and anxiety and
get to the place where you start DOING WHAT
WORKS with a man.
Hint - what works with a man is NOT trying to
TALK TO HIM about all the things that have happened
in the past.
Still, knowing this, too many women call the man
they're dating or see him in person and can't help
but fall right into the trap of letting their
uncertainty and anxiety do the talking.
And they want to discuss and share all the
thoughts they have been having about what's wrong,
what's not working... and why he isn't acting a
certain way.
With fear, insecurity, or anxiety in their voice...
this usually sounds like-
"I need to talk to you...", and then they go
on to spill everything they've been thinking and
feeling and overwhelm the guy.
Or they say... "Something is bothering me",
and they explain how they feel hurt. But then
the man, instead of sympathizing, feels like he's
being CRITICIZED, and he pulls away.
Or there's the famous "Why didn't you call me?" question.
There's really no good answer, and no good
conversation that can come from this if you're
a woman looking to RECONNECT with a man.
In fact, all these things above that women
do practically GUARANTEE that a man is going to
feel awkward around you and that the conversation
is going to go NOWHERE.
Don't do it!
Do what works.
And what works is CONNECTING with a man in the
PRESENT MOMENT when you're together.
So along those lines, here's another secret
for you...
If you learn to make a man feel that magical
FEELING called ATTRACTION when you're with him and
"in the moment"... then there's NOTHING that will
keep him from wanting to see you and be with you.
Including getting physical too soon.
But if you DON'T make a man feel attraction and
keep it going, then almost nothing else will matter.
If you don't know how to make a man feel
attraction... or you waste your time around him
trying to rehash the past or talk about what was
wrong in the past so you can "fix" things... then
there's no way you're ever going to be able to
CONVINCE him to want to see you or be with you.
In other words, it's NOT THE WORDS and the
conversations that you have with a man that are
going to "rekindle" that spark between you and
get his attention and interest.
It's what you make him FEEL when he's with
you that matters most.
Of course, once you know the right things to
say and do with a man to make him feel and
experience that intense level of attraction
with you... everything else becomes incredibly
easy.
Luckily, you already have an amazing guide
in front of you (my eBook) and all you need to
do is put it to use.
Again, you can go and download my eBook
"Catch Him & Keep Him" right now and read all
the details about it here:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/eBook/?cid=VQZZZZ&lid=2&ll=1
And once you have it in front of you...
Go to page 99 in the book and start reading
at the section called "Keep It Simple".
It's going to make your life a whole lot
easier and... well... simple.
Plus, you'll also remember that for a man,
being physical and intimate can often have
NOTHING TO DO with him wanting a relationship
in the first place.
Which means... you could be spending all this
time and energy thinking he's "changed his mind"
after sleeping with you, when he never even got
to the place in his mind where he was ready or
interested in a relationship with you in the
first place.
In other words, stop trying to "fix" the
past by figuring him and the situation out.
Get out of your head.
And start doing what works by creating the
kind of attraction that goes much deeper than
just Physical Attraction.
Right now you are worrying too much about
WHAT HE IS DOING AND THINKING... instead of
getting your own act together and simply being
the kind of woman who feels good about herself
and who a man would want to be with and feel
great when he's around.
Go back over the 13 Personality Traits, I show
you in my book, that naturally attract men. I
list them all and explain them in detail starting
on page 107.
Once you start doing the right things, and
stop worrying about the past and all the things
that have gone WRONG... you'll be amazed at how
quickly things can change.
When a man experiences ATTRACTION for a woman,
everything can change in an instant.
And my eBook "Catch Him & Keep Him" shows
you exactly how and what you need to know to
make your man feel more than Physical Attraction,
and instead connect with you on a deep EMOTIONAL
level to where he's thinking about you all the
time and opens up to you more than he ever has
with any other woman.
If you're ready, you can download my eBook
right now and be reading it in just a few
minutes.
It's here:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/eBook/?cid=VQZZZZ&lid=3&ll=1
If you're finding that what's hardest for you
is creating the kind of COMMUNICATION with a man
that makes getting close and truly intimate
possible... then I've got good news for you-
I've created an all new program dedicated
entirely to helping you create that amazing
level of CONNECTION with a man that's only
possible when you're unusually open, honest,
and can talk and listen to each other.
Unfortunately, lots of women have a hard
time FEELING UNDERSTOOD by men and helping a
man see where they're coming from.
There's really nothing worse, or more
destructive in a relationship... than to not
feel understood and to not "get" where the other
person is coming from.
How often do you feel like you're saying all
the right things with a man to show him how
you feel and help him understand you... but he
just doesn't seem to hear you, get it, or care?
If you're like lots of women I've helped,
then it's much too often that you feel this
way.
In my "Communication Secrets" program, I not
only show you how and why men react and respond
to you when you share your true feelings and
emotions...
But, I show you exactly how to get him to
truly LISTEN and RESPOND to you in a positive
and supportive way.
Most women never learn how and why the men
who they date close off and shut them out when
it comes time to connect on a real emotional
level.
Don't continue the frustrating cycle in your
life with men of trying to share your thoughts
and feelings... only to end up frustrated and
upset that he withdraws and stops wanting to
communicate with you at all.
If you're ready to break through to a new
level of communication, sharing, and understanding
with a man by learning how he thinks and why he
responds the way he does... then go here and read
free tips and watch these free sample video clips
from my "Communication Secrets" CD/DVD program:
http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/CommunicationSecrets/?cid=VQZZZZ&lid=4&ll=1
I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck
in life and love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
